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Do you think you parent's relationships has influenced your relationships?

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    I know it certainly has for me.

    I think I keep recreating my parents relationship in the men that I choose. Basically my dad is a complete narcissistic and doesn't care for my mother at all. Always treats her like she's worth nothing, is never happy with her and nothing she does is ever good enough. He's emotionally absent and has no empathy. As a girl I witnessed years of him hurling abuse at her but I thought it was normal. I thought it was her job to be physically flawless, docile and completely self-sacrificing and serving all of his needs.

    I find myself now the same age as when they met. And the kind of men I pursue are ones who could not give a rubbish about me. But I feel it is my duty to become everything they want and bend over backwards to please them and jump through hoops. But even when I do I'm still not good enough and they get bored.

    So what do you think? Has you parent's relationship influenced you views and actions in relationships and dating?

    If you haven't tried getting with other kinds of men (those who care, etc.), then you should. There are much more environmental factors at play, and maybe there'd be a kind that stand out more than those who don't care.

    If not, then you know.

    My parents have a huge influence on my relationships, but not because I want to re-create something like theirs. More because I care a lot about their opinions and what they think. I wouldn't date someone even if i was incredibly attracted to them just because my parents didn't like them
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