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How to tell my housemate to stop coming into my room?

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    This sounds like a stupid question (I know it is) but how can I tell my housemate to stop coming into my room?

    I live in a dormitory and I share a room with my friend. However, we have a housemate who likes to regularly come into our room (often everyday) to speak to my friend. My friend and I are both painfully shy and suffer from anxiety so it is incredibly awkward when this housemate comes into our room. I have had clashes with this housemate before since they get very angry and are often rude to me when I struggle to hear them and if I ask them to repeat themselves (I'm deaf) or if my friend has to interpret them for me. This is also another reason my friend and I want this person to stop coming to our room.

    My friend did ask this housemate to stop coming into our room for a few weeks so that we could focus on our studies for our upcoming exams without interruption. This worked for about a week before the housemate started visiting again.

    I really want to be able to tell this person that my friend and I no longer want them to come to our room without sounding rude or harsh. Please can I have advice on how to do this?

    EDIT: I forgot to mention that everyone living in the dormitory are deaf.

    Hey, I used to have a similar problem.

    Can you lock your bedroom door from the inside? If so, keep it locked and just don't answer the door if she knocks. She'll soon get the message and find something else to entertain herself.

    You could also just be really off with her and really blunt, hopefully she'll get the message.

    Otherwise the only thing I can suggest you do is tell her again to stop coming into your room. Explain that if you want company you'll go into the communal spaces.

    If she continues you could always report the issue to your dormitory management. Somethings similar happened in my halls of residence. It would likely result in losing her as a friend but something tells me you wouldn't be too bothered about that? Aha

    Just tell her to piss off.

    Stick a chair under the handle.

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    Close the door and lock it? And next time this person comes in, ask him/her to leave. Life is always presenting challenges that put us in uncomfortable situations. You just have to work through them.
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