So during the last year of my undergraduate degree I made friends with a guy who I instantly found attractive. After a few months we became briefly involved (not friends with benefits, more like 'sort of dating'), though he ended it because he was going though various problems, one of them being that he had broken up with an ex about three months before meeting me.
Anyway, we remained good friends after that (bar a couple of slip ups where we ended up briefly involved again) although I did notice him becoming slightly more distant. He was offered work abroad at the end of the year. Ironically the few days before he was offered it he seemed more tender than usual and I caught him staring at me in a really intense manner.
Anyway since he's left, two years now, it's been usually me to keep in contact with him, initiating conversations via text based social media. Like..I initiate 90% of the time. We've had our ups and downs where mixed messages were sent. And a couple of periods of no contact for various reasons. People keep telling me that he clearly doesn't want to be friends...but I find that hard to believe as most of these conversations he replies to and go on to last an hour at least. We've facetimed a couple of times also - and I find it hard to believe he'd do that if he didn't want to.
My question is - is it really that bad that I'm initiating the conversation all the time? Does it really mean that there is no possibility of this friendship continuing because only one person wants it - which is what my friends suggest?
Friend/old flame has moved abroad. I'm the one to always initiate contact?
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