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    I recently started a job working in a cafe, and I'm currently being trained on how to make all the different kinds of coffees available. I do enjoy the job but my boss is expecting a lot from me, given that I've only done a few shifts making drinks. When an order comes in with a drink I've not even made before (and i ask for help), I get told off because I "should know what to do by now". I just find that I can do nothing right, and everyone else seems to feel that way too. I have work today and I'm absolutely dreading it, solely because I know I'm just going to feel bad about myself afterwards. I shouldn't take it personally, but I don't know how to cope with this kind of situation, as it is my first job. Does anyone have any advice?

    I'm not sure I have any advice, just sympathy. My boss is really strict and always seems to find a way to tell me off. She's a lot younger than me and seems to have a chip on her shoulder but I guess I just have to do things the way she wants... Not happy

    All I can suggest is explaining that you haven't done that before that's why you don't know how to do it. At the end of the day if you haven't done it how are you supposed to know how to. Sounds frustrating. How old are you? Sometimes when you're young you get treated differently

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    Don't stress about it. Lots of bosses can be extremely patronising and treat you like you know nothing. Just think of it like this- they may be very bossy and think they can tell you what to do but they rely on you to be there for the cafe to open, or it wouldn't be very well-organised! So they should eventually value you as an employee once you have learned to do the job. Also many managers/bosses are very stressed and may not mean what they say so don't take it to heart, just stick the job out for a while and you may find things change. 😊

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