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    My bf & I have been dating for 6 months. We met through a dating app and talked alot then decided to meet up. He lives 2hrs away and came all the way from his area to meet me in my college which is 2hr20 min journey from his college and i didnt have to travel. I loved him for that so much. He is 19 and i am 16.
    My bf did start talking to me less after about 2 months of dating, and i know this is normal because theres excitement in the beginning of the relationship😊

    But here's the JEALOUSY BIT
    I followed him on instagram as he gave me his details and i have noticed he is liking loads of pictures from girls and comments "🔥🔥" on their insta or "🔥🔥🔥👌". I have posted pictures on instagram and he commented in it with lots of "🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 " which made me happy (on mine ). I don't know his friends and he doesnt know mine.

    And after i got instagram and asked for his insta i noticed that he followed a girl who he claimed to know. He told me "she is some slut from my school, everyone knows her around here" because i had an argument with him in message because the comments on the girls pictures were unacceptable because other boys were commenting "come and get that dick" and that kind of stuff. . I felt upset and i did talk that out with him. He never commented on that girls picture though. In that girls insta it said "like and comment to get noticed" and my bf did like her pics. I don't think my bf knew that girl because couple of days later i didn't see that girl in his follow page and when i searched her name i didnt find her, i know she possibly could've deleted her insta.

    When i was upset about him liking that girls pic.. he sent me long message telling me how much he loved me and that he wouldn't trade me for any other girl. Does he really love me? I HAVE SPOKEN TO HIM ABOUT THIS BUT HE SAYS HE LOVES ME AND WOULDN'T TRADE ME AND THAT MY THOUGHTS ARE WRONG.

    My bf has posted pics of himself and i think he is trying to seek attention from other girls because he is commenting on other girls pictures with emojis and they are not commenting on his. Ive seen his pictures and the comments, he mostly gets comments from boys and girls are just liking it but not commenting whereas he has commented on theirs (not all but some of their pictures). But ive seen this one comment from a girl, she said "is that bae yeah " should i doubt anything.. he hasn't introduced me to that friend or any of his friends except one girl he told me he was close to but this girl who commented on his insta, i don't know her. I don't know any of his friends only one that he told me about.

    I think my bf is also losing interest in me cos he isnt replying like how he used to and he sometimes prefers instagram over me as he checks that first and there were times when he used to say "bae comes first" he changed alot, but when we meet he shows me love and hes so nice to me.

    He also stays awake in the night, he sleeps around 5 and im not sure if i should doubt and he wakes up really late in the day. If he loves me then he should take his time out with me. Sometimes i have internet and he stays awake in the night time (he told me that) but he doesnt text me. When me and him meet up, he says he loves me and missed me so much.

    My bf's mum doesnt know that he is in relationship with me so doesnt my mum, we planned to tell them later. Me and my bf are both muslims and its against our religion to have bf but we still came together and planned to inform our parents later.

    My bf does mention about the future about us getting married and having kids together but now he doesn't really talk abt it only sometimes like almost sometimes.
    He comments and likes most of one girls pics.. he doesnt comment anything horny or that. . But uses emojis just whereas she doesn't comment on his pictures bt she only likes. The girl doesnt reply to his comments.

    When i don't text my bf for a day, he tells me that he missed me so much and he was thinking about me.
    I need help and i don't know what to do, should i even take this seriously. If he is a player then i just want to dump him now cos now i can because i don't think i can later on.

    Hey, I hope I can help a little bit ...
    First , the age difference definitely has got something to do with it as he is at the age where he is an adult and it's a weird transition between teenager and a grown up that takes years to grow into. However ... Given that, I understand that even if a boyfriend likea one girls photo it would automatically hurt the girlfriend as she naturally questions how she looks to him, whether she is worth anything and feels down.
    He Is with you for a reason and perhaps needs reminding of that . Liking other girls pictures may to him seem like nothing and boys enjoy flirting and getting noticed but if they are in a relationship and a stable one, that naturally becomes something that they don't really need anymore.
    The distance of where you live is also difficult because it may make talking to him difficult but that doesn't mean he should love you any less than if you lived next door .
    I hate social media and emojis because they become to represent feelings and you need to tell him to stop doing that as you feel like he doesn't appreciate you, if he loves you he will understand and if you are thinking of a long term relationship he should be willing to do anything to make you happy as you would with him.
    Commenting on a girls photo is something that need some dressing as it is having an effect on you as it would any girl
    But these are things you can work out and through that you also need to learn to appreciate yourself because I am sure you Are a lovely girl who deserves to be loved !
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