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    All my close friends always want to be under the influence of something. Whether it's alcohol, or cigarettes, or drugs.
    I only drink alcohol; I don't smoke anything of any kind. I also don't hang out with my friends when they're smoking (cigarettes/shisha/something else) because I personally think that second-hand smoke is also pretty harmful and I have asthma.
    But I never really had a problem with it till recently.
    But now, I mean, I have 4 or 5 groups of friends, and they all can't hang out without doing one of the aforementioned things.
    Also, some of my friends from school are back from college (I took a year off) and all their stories begin with something like "Dude, we were so baked and then this happened", "We were so smashed and then this happened", "I was out of my mind on those ....." etc. I mean, you get the idea.
    And well, it's just that I've started to feel like the common interests between my friends and I are just decreasing. I mean, even when we all hang out together and we're not doing anything, they're always talking about scoring or how this drug was so brilliant. I just feel like my power to relate to them is no longer there.
    Is this something that anyone else has been affected by? You feel like you're outgrowing your friends?
    Also, is this what university again would be like? Even though I drink, it's not like I'm a big fan of clubbing or something like that, so I have a feeling I won't fit in. The thing is, I also don't want a social group in college who never does anything; I enjoy the occasional party and such, and it just feels like college has the 2 extremes: one group who's out there partying every day, and one group who doesn't. I don't feel like there's a middle group.
    Am I being stupid, especially considering that I haven't even started college yet?

    Just make a diverse group of friends. Some that party and others that do more chill activities. Then you can do both. There is no need to stick to one group.
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