Neil, some feedback.
I didn't get to the end of your post; it was too long.
The reliance on the 'alpha' concept is something that is appropriate in the animal kingdom.
I read an emphasis in the post on the guy 'taking' what he 'wanted'. I find that a little sad. I'm all for people 'owning' their desires, values, decisions etc. But the 'take' without the 'give' mindset is selfish. Have the confidence that giving value will lead to opportunities.
Happy to be corrected, if I've misunderstood you.