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    Me and my boyfriend have been together 2.5 years, both mid 20s. We've been talking about getting a place of our own for a while now and at first I was all for it. Lately I've started panicking. A few reasons:

    1. I only moved here at the start of the year and don't have many friends yet, I get on with my housemates but I'd be worried that if I moved in with my bf I'd become isolated.

    2. He works long hours, 6 sometimes 7 days a week so I'd be lonely

    3. I like to have my own money and spend it on what I want. If we lived together I'd have to be more mindful of my finances - especially as he is self employed and some months I'd have to cover rent.

    4. We get on well but we do have our arguments. How would I get space away from him if I had nowhere else to go?

    5. If in the event we did break up, I'd be homeless (he could stay with his parents as they live locally, mine are 4 hours away).

    How do you know when it's right to move in? I still feel it's too soon as I enjoy my independence and freedom, but will it ever be the right time?
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    The right time will come. For now, enjoy your freedom. Too many factors come into play when you're young to warrant not moving in together so soon.
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