I am girl and have been close friends with a guy at uni for a few months now but this term we kissed. I thought that it strengthened our bond and I've found it easy to act normally since then because we're both not wanting a romantic relationship but with exams and then the approaching end-of-year I think he has suddenly freaked out and is avoiding me nonetheless. The thing is we leave for summer soon so I am wondering if he will actually contact me. I would always be the one to send messages or ask to meet up but friendship works two ways; I have given up making the effort because I deserve better but it makes me sad that it's come to this. I don't want my silence to further encourage him to continue never speaking to me.
Our situation is complicated because he won't be here next year, which makes me think I'll never speak to him again. We haven't physically met in three weeks and we haven't spoken online for two weeks. I miss him but I have always been the one to make the effort and surely if he cared and wasn't awkward about what happened then he would ask me to see him because he said right after we kissed that I was his best friend at uni. Last time we hung out (three weeks ago) we just talked so it's not as if he should be worried that anything will happen. It's making me feel a little used because I didn't think that this was the classic 'boy kissed random girl then forgets about her' scene - it was just platonic before then so I thought that he liked me as a person. I know they say that kisses ruin friendships but I guess I just didn't think it would happen to us.
I just wanted to know:
1) If you were ghosting some would you eventually see them again or would you want to completely forget about them?
2) If you were ignoring someone and then they gave up trying to make an effort would it encourage you to contact them or further encourage you to let the friendship die.
3) Do you think my friend will contact me over the next two weeks because it is the last chance he has to spend time with me?
How long would it take for you to end 'no contact' with your friend?
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