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Why bother with a post grad course - waste of time? 17-10-2016
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    My boyfriend and I have been together for 25 months now, we're in the same college but are going to different universities - he to Cardiff and me to Warwick/Kent. I'm not ready to break up yet since the love is still really strong, and since this has been a half long distance relationship (he is Chinese and goes back to Hong Kong for summer) I'm pretty accustomed to not seeing him for long periods of time. But university is different. We'll both meet new people of course, and I want him to enjoy himself without any limits and he wants the same for me. Ideally I want to stay with him, so we agreed to see how it goes after we leave for uni. It would be very unrealistic that we ever see each other during the semester because of distance and cost. We also tend to argue over little things but seeing each other makes everything okay - we won't have this when we go to university.

    So my questions are - is it realistic that we'll stay together during uni? And does anyone know how hard it is to maintain a relationship with someone in a different uni? :s

    I wouldn't really know, but here's something to consider:

    A decade ago it would've been extremely harder to do this than it is now a days.

    LDR's work, and the relationship you describe could work. Don't let the naysayers convince you otherwise.

    However, it will be difficult. Time, effort, commitment, trust, honesty and communication is of the up-most important here. If you can work through this challenge, I'm pretty sure you could work through whatever else life throws at you.

    My boyfriend and I managed 3 years at different unis, and we've now been living together for a year.

    It wasn't all plain sailing, and had its difficult times. But there are things that make it easier - and as someone has already said, LDRs are easier today than they ever have been. Both transport and communication wise.

    That said, not all work out. I will always say LDRs are worth the attempt, but there is no shame if it doesn't work out.

    It's unlikely, but some people do beat the odds.

    Incidentally, I have a few friends who broke up when they went to university but are now back together since graduation, so even if it doesn't "survive" university, it doesn't mean it is dead and burried.
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