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    I am 22, Asian & I live with my mum atm who I am really closed to (no dad involved). Just wondering if people still ask permission when going out, staying over at bf's family place or weekend get away with bf? I've been with him for 7 months, my mum is scared that we will do something more than our limits so sometimes she says No. I'm aware it is possible but both of us aren't near ready yet. We just want to spend time together almost every weekend when possible coz we live an hour apart & both have full time jobs, otherwise when would be the "right" time. Mum commented that we don't need to see each other weekly & girls shouldn't be staying at the guy's.

    I've explained to her that if I have moved out at 18 for uni, she wouldn't have been so involved when I make my decisions since. So I am just wondering how much do people involve parents when making decisions when going out/sleepover/weekend getaway with bf? Any advice?

    I don't live with my parents any more - I actually live with my boyfriend. So they have no say whatsoever.

    Before I moved out, and from about the age of 17, I haven't had to ask. As long as I tell them, it's fine. It was always more a 'Hey, I won't be home tonight, see you tomorrow' than 'Is it OK if...'

    Everyone, and every family, is different. However, at 22, I do find the idea of asking permission strange. As you said, if you moved out, she wouldn't have any say at all.

    To be honest from about age 16 I would just tell my mum my plans. I'd only ask permission if I was actually inviting someone to my house (for obvious reasons).
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