Girlfriend doesn't like oral (giving)

Nobody really likes going down on someone!
It's just gross to have something like that in your mouth, and people only willingly do it if they love the other person very much, and want to make them happy.
I think a large hairy sweaty long thing choking you is worse than a slimy ham sandwich if you get me, and there's always that fear of domination and stuff.
I think the best thing is to just talk, because if you don't communicate, you can't let anything out.

Nobody really likes going down on someone!
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If she's got a bit of a block on it due to poor experiences of previous relationships it'd be good for her to deal with those experiences and move past them, at her pace.

Definitely don't force it, and drop it if she doesn't want to discuss it, but I'd recommend talking with her and offering a sympathetic ear if she wants to get those experiences off her chest.

Nobody really likes going down on someone!
It's just gross to have something like that in your mouth, and people only willingly do it if they love the other person very much, and want to make them happy.
I think a large hairy sweaty long thing choking you is worse than a slimy ham sandwich if you get me, and there's always that fear of domination and stuff.
I think the best thing is to just talk, because if you don't communicate, you can't let anything out.

Can't unsee that one.


Anyway OP maybe go slow with her until she's comfy about it?

OP - you have to be a winner in order to be sufficiently attractive for that, You have to start winning, winning big.

I think you could talk to her but you'd have to be really careful. I mean as far as taste goes, you don't have to finish in her mouth and up til that point it's not a huge issue... I mean you've got someone's genitals in your mouth so it's never going to be - as you put it - like eating strawberry shortcake, but having a mouthful of *** is a different level of gross if you can't handle the taste. If a big part of the issue is that she's been sexually assaulted and that has involved oral you're going to have to be really patient. It may well be that if she has enough time and builds enough trust with you that she can move on from whatever her current emotional reaction is to doing oral... it might not and you should reassure her that that would be okay as well... if she feels under any pressure that is only going to send her straight backwards.

I don't think there's anything wrong with reassuring her that you're not going to be grabbing her head or thrusting in her mouth or anything and there's nothing wrong with telling her that she doesn't have to swallow a mouthful of ***... but you need to approach it very carefully and make it clear that you don't want to rush her or force her to do anything she isn't 100% okay with and you know it will take time. If you push her even a little bit you're only going to make her more anxious. Also, if she did it a couple of times before stopping that's probably a sign that it took some trust even to risk saying she didn't want to so say you're glad she could trust you enough to talk about it because now you can make sure she is okay together.

Yeah I reassured her that she didnt have to keep going until I finished, as a guy the smell alone makes me want to dry heave so I can sympathize there. Like you say I'll be very sensitive about the whole subject and constantly reassure her that nothing will happen that she's not comfortable with. Thanks!

Relatively new relationship.

Cutting straight to the point, my gf doesn't like going down on me, which sucks (pun intended) big time as for me, this being my first relationship, it was a new experience and an amazing one at that. She sat down with me one day and told me she didn't like it, saying how she felt sick after a while. I dug deeper into the problem and I found out it was really to do with a previous relationship where she was forced into doing things and it essentially brought back bad memories of that. Plus she says she didn't like the taste of a certain something.. I'm sure you can finish that sentence in your head.

Now at the time I made it very clear that it wasn't an issue and it was completely understandable, but now I've realized that I do want it in our relationship. I always give oral to her as I know she enjoys it, it's not exactly eating tasty strawberry shortcake but I still do it for the sake of her pleasure. Which makes me think why doesn't she do the same for me?

I want to talk to her about it, maybe reassure her that it can be done at her pace and how she likes and I wont interfere like her previous bf did. Whats everyone's opinions on this? Worth trying to persuade her or should I just accept that it wont be a part of our relationship?

I think blowjobs are a privilege rather than a right, also since the main evert is pretty good for a guy. Ease up and you never know she might become a bit more willing.

Relatively new relationship.

Cutting straight to the point, my gf doesn't like going down on me, which sucks (pun intended) big time as for me, this being my first relationship, it was a new experience and an amazing one at that. She sat down with me one day and told me she didn't like it, saying how she felt sick after a while. I dug deeper into the problem and I found out it was really to do with a previous relationship where she was forced into doing things and it essentially brought back bad memories of that. Plus she says she didn't like the taste of a certain something.. I'm sure you can finish that sentence in your head.

Now at the time I made it very clear that it wasn't an issue and it was completely understandable, but now I've realized that I do want it in our relationship. I always give oral to her as I know she enjoys it, it's not exactly eating tasty strawberry shortcake but I still do it for the sake of her pleasure. Which makes me think why doesn't she do the same for me?

I want to talk to her about it, maybe reassure her that it can be done at her pace and how she likes and I wont interfere like her previous bf did. Whats everyone's opinions on this? Worth trying to persuade her or should I just accept that it wont be a part of our relationship?