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18yrs with no life

I don't know what to do as I am 18 and although I do meet with friends around once every 2 months, they rarely make plans to do anything with me and when I suggest something it usually never happens . Also my parents are reluctant to allow me to socialise often (every week) because they think it will distract me from studies and i will become a wild teenager. (yes I know I am 18 but I still feel obliged to listen to them to avoid arguments and drama)

Therefore Most days i sit at home and just lie on my bed and think :frown:

I see everyone else going out , having fun and end up feeling depressed and lonely. help?

ps I'm not an introvert at all, it's just my circumstances that have made me so unsocial and boring.
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I don't know what to do as I am 18 and although I do meet with friends around once every 2 months, they rarely make plans to do anything with me and when I suggest something it usually never happens . Also my parents are reluctant to allow me to socialise often (every week) because they think it will distract me from studies and i will become a wild teenager. (yes I know I am 18 but I still feel obliged to listen to them to avoid arguments and drama)

Therefore Most days i sit at home and just lie on my bed and think :frown:

I see everyone else going out , having fun and end up feeling depressed and lonely. help?

ps I'm not an introvert at all, it's just my circumstances that have made me so unsocial and boring.


By think, you mean match porn? Jk. What do you think about?
Same. I left sixth form and went to college. All my friends are at my old school. My course is predominantly guys because it's construction and engineering so... Yeah. I don't have a life either. They're all a year younger than me and quite immature so hey. I hope uni is different.
your parents don't really understand. Studies aren't everything, unless you really are fascinated in an area of research and want to do your PhD on it then you shouldn't let your life be ruled by study. You can and should have "fun time" with friends; at the same time if you have a particular career in mind that doesn't need high grades, focus on that :wink:
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By think, you mean match porn? Jk. What do you think about?
how boring life is
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You may not have the "right" friends. What you need to do is I think to meet as many new people as you can. The more you meet the more likely that you meet someone you get along very well and can spend quality time with. Statisticly it is impossible that you dont meet such person(s) then.
You also should be proactive and "give" something the other person or the community to make them feel worth to have you if you havent done so yet. E.g. you could put effort in creating concrete plans instead of just suggesting things.
You could for example join a hiking group and meet a lot of people. Your parents probably wouldnt have anything against it if you went on an organised hiking event say every second Saturday or so. Daytime I mean.
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You could for example join a hiking group and meet a lot of people. Your parents probably wouldnt have anything against it if you went on an organised hiking event say every second Saturday or so. Daytime I mean.

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