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    Basically, my family are all going on holiday from this thursday evening. We are driving up north for my brothers graduation (which I wanna go to) but then are also planning on driving further north to Scotland for a week. I genuinely don't want to go. My family do my head in very often, especially my dad who is very controlling.

    One of the main reasons why I don't want to go is because it's a driving holiday and I don't get on with my dad very well. He just pisses me off so much but doesn't seem to acknowledge the way he behaves. Last year we also did a driving holiday abroad and it was one of the worst holidays I have been on.

    I am an adult and should be able to decide whether I want to go or not, but every time I say that I don't want to go my dad just replies saying "he will enjoy it" without actually considering how I will feel. I know that I won't enjoy it and it will just make me feel 100x times worse than I do already. I go on every family holiday that we go on without saying anything whereas my younger brother can say "no" and they just let him get on with it, however if I say that, they just get annoyed at me and basically try and force me to go.

    I am not trying to be selfish, but just want to take care of myself and my well-being.

    What should I do? I was thinking that I could buy a single train ticket back home, but I know that they won't take no for an answer. I don't want things to get really awkward at home and I really don't want it to be me against my whole family either

    Any help would be appreciated

    You're an adult, who cares if they don't take no for an answer. They can't physically stop you from getting on the train. If you don't want to do these things then don't be such a doormat.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    You're an adult, who cares if they don't take no for an answer. They can't physically stop you from getting on the train. If you don't want to do these things then don't be such a doormat.
    Thank you for the reply and I agree I'm planning on talking to my brother and mum today about it, hopefully they understand my position.
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