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Started Uni, parents never visited, but now graduated and close to getting a job

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    Graduated in 2015 last year and been working at a restaurant as a KP for nearly a year. Now I am close to completing a professional qualification in IT with the hope of obtaining IT work up North.

    At Uni my dad dropped me off and I was completely uncomfortable due to my lack of friends and having hardly any friends to hang around with. He wasn't interested in helping me much and neither was my mum so I suffered throughout my first year and that they would control where I live at Uni. They did find me a house which I stayed in but I wasn't close to the friends. A year later I told them never to visit Since my first year I have never let my family visit me at Uni ever again as I know it would have made me uncomfortable. They hadn't made me comfortable in Life before Uni. I was a mature student. I would always feel better supported by somebody else and feel I would make better friends as a result of somebody else.

    In my last year of Uni I met the chaplaincy and they were great support. I even considered them guests for my graduation and I was so happy they came. I was considering one or two close friends I made at Uni to be candidates too.
    I was too upset to be at Home and my dad kept moaning at me that I had a home here even though I made my choice. My mum respected my wishes I didn't want to come Home but I feel I should have stayed in my Uni town. I was even offered to move in with the chaplaincy after I graduated.

    I had to feel responsible for my life and having my family support me or visit me wouldn't encourage it. If they came to graduation they would have probably wanted to go somewhere I didn't want to go, that was the case.I still feel that once I move out and get a good job in another city I will no longer want their company or visits from them but will accept visits from friends I have made at my current workplace and friends from Uni.

    I was so happy to meet the Chaplaincy. They were great to be around. We met every Wednesday and Sunday. Every few months I go to visit them.

    Incredibly I also represented my campus and helped new students in the IT rooms. I really enjoyed them.

    I have got a CompTIA qualification for IT and now getting a Windows 7 one done.

    How did others feel at Uni? Were your family like this or did everyone have different experiences?
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