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    Hey guys/girls,

    Here's the thing. I met this girl about a year ago now and she turned my world upside down. She has the best personality and most gorgeous appearance of anyone I've ever seen. A while back I made my feelings clear to her but she didn't seem keen on a date. She said specifically that this wasn't my fault, that if she could choose anyone it would be me but that she feels trapped in relationships.

    I'm really struggling now with the though that when she decides she is ready for someone to take a bigger part in her life that I won't ask at the perfect time and she will go out with some other guy.

    Can any girls explain what they think this trapped feeling might be about? Ideally I want us to have an amazing night when we meet up but I also want to explain that I'm struggling with the thought of never knowing if we could've worked as a couple.

    I care about this girl more than life itself and if I could give up everything I have today just to be with her I'd do it in a heartbeat. If I have my way when I meet her I'll ask her to give me just one chance, dinner anywhere she likes and see how she feels. Does anyone think that making it clear I'm hurting (sleepless nights, etc..) about the fact I can't be with her would be a good idea? I'm not shy about sharing my feelings but I'm scared it will seem like I'm trying to pressure her.

    The way I see it, we're both young and although we are both busy people what would be the harm in trying?

    I'd be super grateful for any advice anyone has.

    Being trapped is because a relationship takes up a great deal of your life and requires a lot of effort. So you are trapped in a relationship, so you can't do other things. No don't tell her about your sleepless nights, it just comes across as needy and desperate, making it less likely should would want to do out with you. And what is the matter with you? How can you care about this girl more than life itself when you are just friends and haven't been being going out with her? Have you had a bad relationship recently? You seem really needy.
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