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Advice for being in a relationship with someone who has depression

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    Hello everyone!

    I messaged this forum before and I got some really helpful and supportive advice last time regarding this - hopefully some more of you can give me some advice!

    I've been with my girlfriend for almost two years now and don't get me wrong - I think the world of her! She makes me very happy and hopefully, I make her happy.

    However - because she doesn't have a great homelife (her and her stepdad just don't acknowledge each others existence), she hate's being at home. She feels that she is basically in a prison in her room.

    Now, I'm a teacher, having just completed a PGCE. It's been a really tough, hard year for me, but I finally did it! But it's been really hard on another level - the texts and stuff at 2 - 3 am in the morning because she can't cope being at home. I felt quite useless to be honest, feeling guilty that I couldn't see her all the time. It was hard at times. And I know it's also been hard for her, but I'm entitled to find things tough too.

    We both got through it, because we do care deeply for each other. But the problem I have not is this - because it's the summer holidays. We basically spend 24/7 with each other. She is over my house constantly. Now, I love spending time with my other half. But I do also value my own space. And it feels that I can't ever have that independence. Any time I've even hinted at approaching the subject, maybe she should go home for tonight etc, it just causes major issues. She just doesn't take any form of honesty which may affect her, well at all. If she had friends who she could depend on and spend time with, she may find it easier. But she's basically moved in for the summer holidays and this has also caused some concern with my parents. But it's really hard to approach the subject with her, because I do miss having just a few hours to myself.

    Any advice on my predicament would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!

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