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    i'm irritated by my bf's interaction with his ex, and i've made it recently how it makes me uncomfortable. will it be right for me to ask him to choose either me or her? or will it just show that i'm some psycho/ jealous?

    i really don't like it and want her to back off. She's being too intrusive recently.

    I think I'd find it a bit jealous/psycho if I was friendly with an ex and told I had to choose. It just seems a bit OTT. I'd be happy to discuss it, I could see you wanting less intrusive but I think I'd be annoyed by you acting like you have a right to dictate my friendships.

    I think the thing is, if you have no reason to think he is cheating or anything like that then it makes you seem really insecure to react strongly. But admitting you are a bit uncomfortable, excepting it's partly about your feelings as much as his behaviours, then you have have a proper discussion about it

    “Psycho & jealous” is a phrase that’s thrown around fartoo often to girls. I’ve been in this situation with a now-ex boyfriend and Ifirmly believe being friends with an ex is okay…until you get into the nextrelationship. People need to understand that they are an ex for a reason andthat the new boyfriend/girlfriend needs to become the priority. If you sufferin silence for fear of being called a psycho you’ll never be truly happy. Tellhim how you feel and if he cannot see your point then it’s best to end things.That might sound very dramatic, but from my past experience, things that youkeep quiet for fear of being called psycho soon add up. It adds up toresentment & ultimately a dysfunctional relationship. You are his girlfriend,you need to come first. Not some other girl he used to like/love/kiss/sleepwith.
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