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Those who didnt stay at uni: How did make you make friends?

For those of you who commuted to uni, was it hard to make friends, and how did you?

Any advice on this matter is highly appreciated!
Reply 1
I can give you an account of my experience as I lived at home commuting to a London uni.

It wasn't hard to make friends as such. But more so of the extra effort it took to make friends. My uni didn't make it straightforward as it was anti social as **** so I joined as many societies as I could. My first year was dead and I didn't have a clubbing buddy so night outs were rare. But with regards to socialising, I did quite a bit of that and got to know people on my course as well as people from societies.

It was only in my final year that I met some nice people who lived near the uni. I befriended them and they happened to be clubbing people. They offered me a place to crash for the night so I went out a lot and became good friends with them.

So I think you shouldn't worry too much, yeah you probably need to spend more time looking for the right people to be your 'clique' (it won't take 3 years like it did for me) but you will find a group of people to hang out with. You never know you might find people at uni who live close to you so you can travel home together. There are a lot of scenarios where you can meet people

Good luck!
(edited 7 years ago)
Original post by Emilycunningham
For those of you who commuted to uni, was it hard to make friends, and how did you?

Any advice on this matter is highly appreciated!


Hello :smile:

I didn't personally but my house mate did.
They made friends through Facebook before hand - before university there were various Facebook groups running and people were able to meet through there, therefore, she met people through there. She came to Freshers events with us and met people through them as well as meeting people through her course.

Other people make friends through societies and so on and so fourth.

Best of luck!
I just finished my first year, living from home.

First off, it was difficult. After lectures and all, everyone would go back to halls, and I didn't know that many people to begin with. But I did begin to hang out with them more often as I got to know them. I also joined societies and met some very memorable friends there, as, of course, we had similar interests. So at first, it may seem rough, but once year one is done, you'll be fine.
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Original post by UWS
I can give you an account of my experience as I lived at home commuting to a London uni.

It wasn't hard to make friends as such. But more so of the extra effort it took to make friends. My uni didn't make it straightforward as it was anti social as **** so I joined as many societies as I could. My first year was dead and I didn't have a clubbing buddy so night outs were rare. But with regards to socialising, I did quite a bit of that and got to know people on my course as well as people from societies.

It was only in my final year that I met some nice people who lived near the uni. I befriended them and they happened to be clubbing people. They offered me a place to crash for the night so I went out a lot and became good friends with them.

So I think you shouldn't worry too much, yeah you probably need to spend more time looking for the right people to be your 'clique' (it won't take 3 years like it did for me) but you will find a group of people to hang out with. You never know you might find people at uni who live close to you so you can travel home together. There are a lot of scenarios where you can meet people

Good luck!


You went to city?

What socities did you join and where they any good?
Reply 5
Original post by MrSplash
You went to city?

What socities did you join and where they any good?


How did you know lol?

I would definitely consider joining some of the cultural ones if you're interested in that sort of thing. Are you Asian?
Reply 6
Original post by UWS
How did you know lol?

I would definitely consider joining some of the cultural ones if you're interested in that sort of thing. Are you Asian?


Nah. Ill have a look on their website if i can get in.
I didn't struggle to make friends. My uni had a freshers facebook page, so I met a couple people on my course from there before we actually started uni. Then I met other people at events, in classes, at work etc. People make it out like you won't be able to meet people if you don't live with them, but I don't actually know anyone who stayed friends with anyone they lived with in first year.

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