I've had it up to here with my mum. Is my anger justified?

I know that all parents are annoying from time to time but my mum goes above and beyond. I have finished my taught subjects at uni and only have my dissertation left. My mum kept telling me that I should come home to do the dissertation, as it would save me money. I had magically forgotten what a toxic environment her house was because distance makes the heart grow fonder, so I agreed.

I don't laze around at home; I do housework and cook (along with other family members) on top of my dissertation and job applications. What I didn't know is that my mum had made plans to renovate the house over the summer. She is now using me and my brother as free labour by making us paint walls and doors, put up wallpaper, shift and replace furniture and a lot more. What's more is that some of the family members haven't lifted a finger to help with the renovations and she excuses this, saying that they won't do a proper job. She keeps yelling, is always calling us and having temper tantrums. My mood has been very sour over the past few weeks and I feel that coming back here was a mistake. I really am sick of her.

She probably missed you and wanted you home, but like the post above says - if it gets in the way of your dissertation then you need to sort it out with her, but ensure you're calm and direct. Remember you're both adults, so there needs to be a mutual respect.

She shouts over us when we try to reason with her, whereas with my two older sisters she will always listens (and she would never as them to help with the renovations). There is a lot a favouritism going on here, which is worse because it isn't fair that some people get away with doing nothing.

Why don you leave again and finish your dissertation?

I only have a month and a half left and it takes quite a while to search for somewhere new to live. Instead, I am applying for jobs in other cities so that I can hopefully move after the dissertation.

I know that all parents are annoying from time to time but my mum goes above and beyond. I have finished my taught subjects at uni and only have my dissertation left. My mum kept telling me that I should come home to do the dissertation, as it would save me money. I had magically forgotten what a toxic environment her house was because distance makes the heart grow fonder, so I agreed.

I don't laze around at home; I do housework and cook (along with other family members) on top of my dissertation and job applications. What I didn't know is that my mum had made plans to renovate the house over the summer. She is now using me and my brother as free labour by making us paint walls and doors, put up wallpaper, shift and replace furniture and a lot more. What's more is that some of the family members haven't lifted a finger to help with the renovations and she excuses this, saying that they won't do a proper job. She keeps yelling, is always calling us and having temper tantrums. My mood has been very sour over the past few weeks and I feel that coming back here was a mistake. I really am sick of her.

I know that all parents are annoying from time to time but my mum goes above and beyond. I have finished my taught subjects at uni and only have my dissertation left. My mum kept telling me that I should come home to do the dissertation, as it would save me money. I had magically forgotten what a toxic environment her house was because distance makes the heart grow fonder, so I agreed.

I don't laze around at home; I do housework and cook (along with other family members) on top of my dissertation and job applications. What I didn't know is that my mum had made plans to renovate the house over the summer. She is now using me and my brother as free labour by making us paint walls and doors, put up wallpaper, shift and replace furniture and a lot more. What's more is that some of the family members haven't lifted a finger to help with the renovations and she excuses this, saying that they won't do a proper job. She keeps yelling, is always calling us and having temper tantrums. My mood has been very sour over the past few weeks and I feel that coming back here was a mistake. I really am sick of her.

No. I don't think it's right for you to be that angry with your own mother. Parents do so much for their children-you should at least do what she tells you to do. If she wants you to stay at home and help with the renovation, why not? After all the hard work she's put in to make you into a good person, that's the least you can do.

I'm sorry, but I can't agree with that. They are in the middle of potentially the most important work of their life, working on their dissertation, and yet she is stubbornly disrupting it. Plus, her show of favouritism is unjustified, you can't defend that. It frustrates me when people just brush this sort of issue off, with 'That's just what parents are like' or 'you should just be grateful for what she's done for you'. I think what you need to do is either try to get your sisters on your side, she obviously listens to them. If you can get them to explain to her how you feel about it, she mright be more inclined to listen. Otherwise, remind her that, after all the years of you working, you don't want to waste the money that (I assume your family has helped with) has spent on university by getting a poor grade in the pinnacle of your work. If nothing else gets to her, the economical side of her should get trough.

I'll just agree to disagree on this.