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    Even if I like someone or someone likes me, I feel nervous if it comes to intimacy and I change the subject. I feel a bit frightened like something will go wrong or I will become somehow "less of a person", "less worthy" or too dependent. I feel like I will have no more autonomy. And sometimes I feel near shame, too, like I will crumble. I don't know why this is. Very uncomfortable even though I want intimacy. Don't know why I'm so frightened. And the other thing, if someone likes me and makes a move I start pulling away and I really want to stop this. Why is this and how can I change this??

    Don't worry so much you've already established why, so basically challenge your own views, to show that what you believe isn't necessarily true.
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