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She's 17 and I'm 26...........

I know. I know it's just completely ridiculous and I'll probably get accused of ****, but I really, really like her.

I met her in a band, where she sings and she's just really funny, smart, witty, just generally a really cool person. I don't think I'd DO anything with her (like, that'd be paedophilic), but, I just love spending time with her, and being with her. She has this huge grin which makes me happy (ridiculous, I know. I think I'm a goner)

I don't mind waiting a few years, and neither does she, because we know how weird it'd be for both our families, but, am I crazy?

It's just the age that's the issue, but we understand each other so so well, and I can't imagine living life without her.

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Original post by Anonymous
I know. I know it's just completely ridiculous and I'll probably get accused of ****, but I really, really like her.

I met her in a band, where she sings and she's just really funny, smart, witty, just generally a really cool person. I don't think I'd DO anything with her (like, that'd be paedophilic), but, I just love spending time with her, and being with her. She has this huge grin which makes me happy (ridiculous, I know. I think I'm a goner)

I don't mind waiting a few years, and neither does she, because we know how weird it'd be for both our families, but, am I crazy?

It's just the age that's the issue, but we understand each other so so well, and I can't imagine living life without her.

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Lmao, if I were u, I would be with that girl no matter what happens. If u really like her, nothing will get in the way. If u don't, I think u should just give up
Original post by Anonymous
I know. I know it's just completely ridiculous and I'll probably get accused of ****, but I really, really like her.

I met her in a band, where she sings and she's just really funny, smart, witty, just generally a really cool person. I don't think I'd DO anything with her (like, that'd be paedophilic), but, I just love spending time with her, and being with her. She has this huge grin which makes me happy (ridiculous, I know. I think I'm a goner)

I don't mind waiting a few years, and neither does she, because we know how weird it'd be for both our families, but, am I crazy?

It's just the age that's the issue, but we understand each other so so well, and I can't imagine living life without her.

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You got it all wrong. I learnt this from TSR
I think it's called the half a year rule or something of that sort. Divide your age by 2. Add 7. That's the minimum age you should be dating.

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Original post by VlAd x
Lmao, if I were u, I would be with that girl no matter what happens. If u really like her, nothing will get in the way. If u don't, I think u should just give up


Yeah, I won't. I don't intend to. I know it's ridiculous, but, I've seen people with less age difference splitting up, and people with more age difference staying together for life. I think we're both intellectually and emotionally mature enough to know what we want. It's just the age that keeps nagging at me.

Original post by maggie43
You got it all wrong. I learnt this from TSR
I think it's called the half a year rule or something of that sort. Divide your age by 2. Add 7. That's the minimum age you should be dating.

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Yeah but here's the thing: it doesn't work that way. If I even consider leaving her, the age being the only issue, I will never ever get over her. And that would be betraying/cheating whoever I were to get in a relationship in the future. I really do (here comes the word) love her. She's not the prettiest and that's definitely not the reason I'm dating her. But she's smiley, awkward, a little socially awkward and tons of fun. And I can't replace her with just anyone.

Even though that would be easier.......
I don't understand, she's legal and you're both in love? As long as it's consensual, the law has no objection?
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lolwut. That's not paedophilia.
Think about why the age actually bothers you. Is it anything to do with what you actually want, or are you just worried about what the rest of society will think? If the latter, who cares? It's legal..
Original post by Anonymous
I know. I know it's just completely ridiculous and I'll probably get accused of ****, but I really, really like her.

I met her in a band, where she sings and she's just really funny, smart, witty, just generally a really cool person. I don't think I'd DO anything with her (like, that'd be paedophilic), but, I just love spending time with her, and being with her. She has this huge grin which makes me happy (ridiculous, I know. I think I'm a goner)

I don't mind waiting a few years, and neither does she, because we know how weird it'd be for both our families, but, am I crazy?

It's just the age that's the issue, but we understand each other so so well, and I can't imagine living life without her.

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I dunno, she is still a child in the eyes of the law - you said neither of you mind waiting, so maybe wait until she's in her 20s??
Original post by Anonymous
I dunno, she is still a child in the eyes of the law - you said neither of you mind waiting, so maybe wait until she's in her 20s??


3-12 years? sods that that.

OP if you can both look past the age issue, then go for it. Its not illegal and its your relationship not anyone elses
You have TSR's permission. Whip it out.
17 is legal
Shakira is 10 years older than Pique
Original post by maggie43
You got it all wrong. I learnt this from TSR
I think it's called the half a year rule or something of that sort. Divide your age by 2. Add 7. That's the minimum age you should be dating.

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So when I'm 80 I'm still gonna be nabbing ****s?


The star'ed out word is Mothers, I'd, Like (to) ''Friend''
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Original post by Anonymous
I know. I know it's just completely ridiculous and I'll probably get accused of ****, but I really, really like her.

I met her in a band, where she sings and she's just really funny, smart, witty, just generally a really cool person. I don't think I'd DO anything with her (like, that'd be paedophilic), but, I just love spending time with her, and being with her. She has this huge grin which makes me happy (ridiculous, I know. I think I'm a goner)

I don't mind waiting a few years, and neither does she, because we know how weird it'd be for both our families, but, am I crazy?

It's just the age that's the issue, but we understand each other so so well, and I can't imagine living life without her.

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Don't worry. If you have genuine feelings for her and would be willing to devote your whole life to her, then that's all that matters. I know plenty of couples with a big age gap - and none of them gives a hoot about it.
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My parents age gap was bigger and my mama was still a teen when she married.
They way you talk about her in your post suggest genuine feelings and not some creepy desire to get in the pants of a teenager, so her being 17 and you being 26 shouldn't matter at all. A meeting of the minds doesn't require age or social conformity, just the complicity and agreement of the two people involved. You're not breaking the law, you're both old enough to make your own decisions. As has been pointed out, large age gaps are not uncommon. My gran and grandad were married for 50 odd years ( until he died ), and there was a 15 year age gap between them.Honestly, your posts just come across as you trying to find reasons not to go down a path you clearly want to go down. You're basically making **** up to justify not following through. If the feelings involved are mutual, if you make each other happy, then what the hell is the problem? Fear? Lack of self-confidence? Obsessions with what everyone else thinks rather than your own well-being? Whatever it is, just get on with it. I'm 27, and if I were in your position, and certain that what I was thinking and feeling was genuine, I'd totally go for it providing the feelings I had were reciprocated.
Reply 15
Breaks the 1/2 age + 7 rule which is a pretty good guide. At least wait till she 18 for some morality.
legal

morals or bang?

bang
Reply 17
I'm 25, my first thought on reading the title was to the effect of '**** no man'. Maybe I'm a sap too but reading your post, you sort of convinced me.


Realistically, if you wait for years it's not going to happen. It just won't feeling don't linger forever, they need the relationship to be there to sustain them. Plus stuff will come up that you don't at all expect. You just can't talk about it like it is a dead cert you can just get together in a few years.

If you act on it then it does need to be not sex focused- she's legal but still dodgy age gap. You need to be aware that age gaps like that can create a power dynamic. You need to know she doesn't know her own mind the way you do yet- think about how different you were at her age. I think you can date and hang out but it has to go so slow.

Also, you have the aspect of how others will react. I have a little sister, if she was 17 and some 26 year old was hanging around her, I'd be very serious in telling him I'd kick the **** out of him if he didn't get lost quickly. People aren't going to trust you, they are going to think it is dodgy and they are going to think you are using her. That's not unreasonable of them- it's the knowing her mind and power dynamic, you could so easily take advantage of her, including in non-sexual ways.

For her sake and your's you've got to do in an above reproach way. Even then I think it is probably a bad idea but sometimes bad ideas are good ideas, you don't meet many people in life who you find properly special
Reply 18
Go for it, just keep anything sexual out of it for a while. No nudes (possible child porn) or actual sex. Since she's 17, it's not long to wait.

I don't see any problem with the age difference. My aunt and uncle have 10 year difference and they're still together after 25+ years.

I've personally dated guys with similar age differences. As long as you like each other and enjoy the time you spend together there's nothing wrong with it.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with the age gap but I'm curious why older guys in their late or mid 20s date teenage girls.