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    Ok so I met a boy a few weeks ago and I've not liked someone like him in ages, he's so nice to mee and whenever we've been out or together he treats me like a angel and I love it. But the thing is he's just gotten out of a 18 month relationship with a girl who manipulated him. This girl pretended to be pregnant to keep him in the relationship and she got him locked in a jail cell for being abusive when this girl injured herself and blamed it on him and his family had photos to prove it wasn't him. This relationship ended 3 months ago and he's told me he's moved on but if that was me I couldn't trust anyone again that's why I'm questioning am I the rebound? He's a absolute gentlemen and he's told me he wouldn't do anything that I'm not comfortable with and he wants me to set the pace because he could see it in me that I'm scared. He suffers with aspergers but it's so hard to even tell, I wouldn't have known if he didn't say. I've gotten to know him so well and I've told him things I never tell anyone which is hard for me because I've not had a relationship for 5 years and I'm a person that keeps myself to myself but he's so easy to talk to and he's honestly wonderful but there's just part of me that's thinking I'm the rebound or a distraction.

    I wouldn't say so, no. 3 months is a decent amount of time (not perfect but not right after) and he's not just using you for sex or anything.

    Sounds like you've been going on plenty dates and he's been making an effort to make you feel special and have a nice time. It sounds good to me. If there is a trust issue it's understandable, doesn't mean that you're a rebound though. Sounds like he went through a lot last time but looks like he's trying to make an effort.

    Wouldn't worry about it if that's the only thing you're basing it on. If he needs extra support or leniency because of last time give him it, but I don't think he's using you for anything other than trying to find a new, better relationship
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