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breakup because im not laid back enough - advice?

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    hi guys, just struggling with my break-up at the moment could do with some advice and reassurance, i feel really teary all the time and i'm getting tired of it :[

    basically was with this person for over a year and we broke up but a few weeks we agreed give things another go. he broke it off a week ago saying he wants something laid back and i'm too up tight as in i want more of a real relationship.

    In the beginning of our relationship it was casual, he has never referred to me as his gf, but i do feel like he really liked me before the first breakup. its so confusing for me that he has said this now. he was the first person i've ever slept with & I can't imagine being intimate with anybody else and the idea of that person being that way with someone else other than me makes me so upset.

    he's already on dating apps (which i think he's always had) and i feel like he's just so easily deleted me from his life. Its horrible because i have been there for him when he had no friends and was really stressed out & busy with work which has been the case for him for a long time. we hung out nearly all the time before. basically feel now like he's rejected me because he has spent more time with his friends as he has more time off - its like i'm not exciting enough for him anymore and i imagine he's just gone off and hanging out with other girls already i just feel so embarrassed and all the good times before just really make me so sad. I know things will get better with time but having finished uni and not knowing where my life is going i just feel like everything is just ruined for me and i feel like i'm not good enough for anything.

    if anyone has been in a similar situation it would be really helpful to hear your experience and how long you had to wait till you stopped getting upset over it. I can't vent to my friends and family because i hate crying in front of them and im quite a proud person in that i don't like being vulnerable.

    thanks for any advice

    please please please start socialising with people again and do the things you like doing. It's up to you when to tell people how you feel about what has happened but I'd advise doing it sooner. Because if you cannot let those feelings go they might translate into something more sinister.
    If you feel you have friends that understand you, they would of course never think it's not ok to cry.
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