Does it mean you don't actually care about them and are just using them, or is it a natural and ethical way to feel? It seems like people often think that if you're only interested in sex with someone, that you're using them/are being unethical somehow, but people seem to be more okay with the idea of only being interested in someone for a relationship? E.g. 'it's either a relationship or nothing', no friendship. But if you're only interested in someone if they can give you a romantic relationship, doesn't that bear similarity to only being interested in someone if they can give you sex? Both instances are cases of 'if you don't give me what I want, I'm not interested in you'. Obviously in a platonic friendship someone also has wants or needs that, if not met, they will probably end the friendship over. Eg. 'if you never respond to my texts, I won't be your friend anymore'. But not responding to someone's texts is rude, so it seems like a reasonable thing to stop being friends with someone over, whereas not having sex with someone isn't rude. Responding to texts seems like basic respect whereas sex is something 'extra'. Anyway, enough of the rambling now. There's a guy I like and have liked for 2 years now. We have not been, and probably never will be together for a number of reasons. He likes me too but he doesn't want to commit to a relationship. We have a fwb type thing though. I don't think I would want to have a platonic friendship with him. I care about him as a person and am not just interested in sex... I think if I was only interested in that, I wouldn't want a relationship. But we have never had a platonic relationship and I just... Don't think I can imagine it. I am so accustomed to us communicating in an affectionate (and often sexual) way that I don't think would work if we were 'just friends'. I guess I could tolerate a platonic relationship but I would lack interest in it. I would probably feel resentful about us not having at least something going on, even if it wasn't an actual relationship. Does that mean I'm not really interested in him?