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Girlfriend hurts initially every time we have sex, then feels nothing

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    So, my girlfriend and I have been together for about 10 months and she was a virgin when we first got together. So the first time we had sex it hurt her as was expected but now every time we have sex it hurts her initially and once the pain subsides it just feels like nothing. She likened it to it feeling weird/ like my penis isn't supposed to be there.

    Every time we have sex I always make her orgasm before and we use lube, doesn't seem to help though.

    This isn't affecting our relationship as we do plenty of other sexual things that more than make up for it. It just would be nice to find the cause and a solution for this.

    That sounds like something to see a medical professional about - nothing urgent, of course, but maybe she should look into it next time she sees her GP.

    What lube are you using? If a cheaper brand of lubricant or a lube alternative, you may wish to invest more in your lubricant to decrease friction upon penetration. Secondly, make sure your girlfriend is sufficiently aroused before penetration, foreplay is a good way to excite your partner and prep her for painless penetration.

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