Please HELP - Just had MASSIVE PHYSICAL FIGHT WITH MY FAMILY!!

My assumption is that this wasn't a one-off incident - I reckon you've probably been suffering a lot of stress at the hands of your family and everything just came to a head last night. It was really unfair of your parents to hurt you physically in public when they could just as easily have been diplomatic. Your brothers were obviously following your dad's example by hurting you too, and that's really stupid of them. But if there's one thing I've learned, it's that South Asian families are never diplomatic about domestic issues and they always like to make a scene (I'm assuming you are actually from a South Asian family, haha). You did the right thing by standing up to them, but what you do next is crucial.

Don't try and make up with them - that time is gone. Instead you can refuse to do anything with them for the rest of the summer - let them come and apologise to you. If they don't, LEAVE as soon as possible. I don't know if you go to uni away from home but if you don't, you can easily move out and rent a room in a student house or live in private student accommodation blocks. You can sign a tenancy from early September for the whole year and that way, if anything like this happens again at home, you have somewhere else to stay. If that doesn't work out, try and stay with friends until you get back on your feet. I'd recommend getting a part-time job to keep yourself busy until uni starts again, and it also gives you an excuse not to go home that regularly. I think you would benefit from living in a different place for a while to gain some independence. Families behave differently when they miss you as opposed to when you're living with them - if you've been away for a while they might try and make up for what they've done. None of this is your fault.

Until you can move, if anything like this happens again then I'd suggest you stand up for yourself and throw some insults back at them. The silent treatment always works well, but if not then there must be other things you can pick out. As harsh as it sounds, you can't be the only person in your family who struggles with their weight. Give them a taste of their own medicine, don't take any **** from them and be confident in your own abilities. If they're not going to respect you like a human being, you don't have to treat them like your family. Simple.

OP here. Thank you so much to all for your kind words and advice it means a lot to me <3

I just rang my dad to apologise, and then he said some more really hurtful things that stabbed me in my heart. He basically made me out to be a horrible person, and even said I'm snobbish and look down on people to which my mum actually disagreed with him straight away. He said that's why I have 'no friends' (because of those 2 friendship fallouts, ignoring my numerous other friendships).
That took me by surprise because I've always gone out of my way to talk to and befriend the people everyone else deemed as 'weird' or an 'outcast', I don't like judging people and others have told me before how they find it strange that I 'am close to people from different classes or religions'. A good friend just told me how everyone in our school avoided her because she was the 'fat Muslim weirdo who wore a hijab and dressed differently' but that I had taken it upon myself to actually get to know her and become her closest friend, helping her with her various 'disorders' and bullying, that I am the only person who always been there for her.Another friend also recently sent me a gift to thank me for helping her during a time of sexual abuse when she had no one else and for paying hundreds for her accommodation in a safe shelter and never asking for the money back. Etc. He also said few of my friends showed up to my birthday party last year meaning that they all 'hate me' deep down, but these particular friends have always met up with me before and were on holiday at the time as it took place in August.I know I'm not perfect but I really have done a lot for my friends and tried to be the nicest person I can be. I don't like hurting people and for him to turn those two friendship fallouts over people who have been horrible to numerous others really hurts me. Right now as I type this I am hysterically crying and in tears, I don't think I will ever get over what he said. I also remember with my depression how he would make me feel like such a bad person because of it, calling me selfish, attention seeking and like I wanted to deliberately cause pain on my family despite me doing everything I could to hide how I was truly feeling from them. He said how my youngest brother said 'Yes! I'm glad she's out of the house' when I went back to uni before. Words can't describe how hurt I feel right now. In fact I feel extremely low and like I don't want to be here any more. Haven't felt this low in a long time.

How old are you? You acted like an 8 year old

Was just at a restaurant with my family I ordered some onion bhajis, my youngest brother said he wanted one and reached out for it with his fork. I said no I ordered this you could have ordered it yourself. All of a sudden my parents go nuts yelling at me that I'm very selfish that's why my brother doesn't like me. Then my dad goes "maybe that's why your friendships don't last" which made me so ****ing angry because he doesn't ****ing know what he's talking about. So to cool myself down I walk off and leave the restaurant & sit on a bench outside so I can calm down. About 20 mins later my brother is yelling at me saying everyone is disappointed at me look at me ruining everything to get in the car then my dad comes out telling me to get in the car. I yelled you're the reason I won't, what you said really hurt me then he goes mental. Starts kicking me, hitting me, I ran away from him hitting me then tripped over a bench and landed on the ground. He goes "good for you serves you right", then my other younger brother comes starts yelling at me, saying "I ruin this family every ****ing day". Then he starts kicking me and going nuts. Other brother was trying to hold him back, then my dad said "get in the car" I said "not until you apologise for what you said", he told me "I'm one child out of three who always exhausts them". Only times we've ever had fights and fall outs is when I had depression, because I was bullied in school. They weren't supportive of my depression, we used to have physical fights over it. They used to call me selfish and make me feel bad over it, I wasn't even the one who told them. My school would ring up telling them or counsellors. Then I yelled at my dad you were never supportive of me when I was depressed, my other brother comes at me & starts strangling my neck saying how dare you. I ended up getting into the car, but now I'm not talking to any of them. I don't want to be anywhere near them, since I've come home from uni I've mostly been minding my own business. They've been on my case calling me fat telling me off whenever they see me eating. This morning I was minding my own business, listening to music with headphones in, my mum starts saying to my brother look how fat her stomach is, lifts my top up (she's been going on about it for weeks) and they're both laughing. I confided in my dad about 2 friends in uni who I fell out with, I have always been very nice to them and helped them out. One of them admitted that she used to be a bully, started turning on some lovely girls we met in uni and being nasty to them then turned on me, the other one is really islamophobic, called Chinese and Indians 'inferior races' and 'hates all of them' & is quite *****y. I am so hurt that my dad could turn those two friendship fallouts on me when I have numerous other friends who I have always been there for and cared for, even when they had no one else. I'm so upset and angry right now. What do I do?