Living at home during university

As the title states, I'm living at home whilst at university. But, I'm worried I'm going to struggle to make friends - that I'm missing out socially.

Has anyone been in the same situation? What did you do? Any advice would be appreciated.

Reply 1

Pinkberry_y

Original post by AlohaCharlotte

Join lots of societies, go to the freshers events, talk to lots of people it should be fine :smile:

plenty of people commute and have no problem making friends :smile:

Reply 2

AlohaCharlotte

Original post by Pinkberry_y

Join lots of societies, go to the freshers events, talk to lots of people it should be fine :smile:

plenty of people commute and have no problem making friends :smile:

Okay thank you :colondollar:

Reply 3

JustGeorgeJ

Original post by AlohaCharlotte

Hello

What you are feeling is a complete and utter common student worry - also, a common misconception. I reply to this kind of threads on the daily and I'm here to tell you that you do not have to worry.

Sure, living at home can make making harder but not impossible. At the end of the day remember you are still going to be in lectures with people with a similar interest to you - you will make friends through your course and you can study/grab something to eat with them before and/or after lectures.

Also, you can join societies and attend parties, you may not live on campus but you can still travel to these events and make friends.

Like I've said, it makes it harder but if you are willing to put in the effort, it'll pay off.

Best of luck :biggrin:

Reply 4

AlohaCharlotte

Original post by JustGeorgeJ

Hello

I'm glad its not just me! But thank you, it's slightly reassuring (the advice and that many people are going through it

Reply 5

goldensnow101

Hey, I am actually doing the same, living at home and commuting to uni as of this September. Do you mind telling me the name of the uni? It may not be as bad as it seems and there are a lot of perks by staying at home. Just put yourself out there and join clubs and societies that interest you, in the first week everyone will be in the same situation, everyone is new and the environment is unfamiliar.

Reply 6

JustGeorgeJ

Original post by AlohaCharlotte

I'm glad its not just me! But thank you, it's slightly reassuring (the advice and that many people are going through it

Oh not at all! No problem, they are indeed! :smile:

Reply 7

Brunette_baby

This thread has made me feel a bit better too! I'm so nervous about living at home during uni as I want to make friends and go out! :smile:

Reply 8

kiwikiia

I have been worrying about the exact same thing as you guys and reading your messages made me feel a lot more comfortable :smile:

thanks!

Reply 9

jonathanemptage

Original post by AlohaCharlotte

it really relies on a lot of factors like how long is your journey door to door ? , How social do you want to be? Do you like the city? How much will you really save? How is your time table ? Do you have really long breaks ? How reliable is public transport all these things need to be considered

Reply 10

Tsrsarahhhh

I'm worried about it too, if I lived in halls I'd be forced to make friends. I'm just going to make sure I sign up to lots of societies and try and make friends on my course. Good luck, what are you studying?

Reply 11

klewis

Original post by AlohaCharlotte

Hiya! I stayed at home whilst studying Sociology at Sussex University. Just make sure you join lots of societies, and fully immerse yourself into student life. Get tickets to all of the freshers events - if you live quite locally to the Uni, you could always have friends back to yours and show them around the town (as a lot of them will not be local!). My friends let me stay at theirs after nights out etc, I actually found it really beneficial. I was able to save money, and got the best of both worlds! Try not to worry :smile:

Reply 12

XxKingSniprxX

Original post by AlohaCharlotte

I'm in the same boat. I'll probably make friends from just lectures/societies.

The people you would have met if you've stayed in halls won't necessarily be friends or will you see them during your entire time when studying at university, the same way people come and go in/out of your life like seasons.

Reply 13

lolli93

Original post by XxKingSniprxX

Same here

Reply 14

JS97

Hi there! I am also in the same situation and have had the exact same worries, I also plan on just joining some societies. Plus like someone said earlier you'll be able to show people around and the money and stress you'll be saving staying at home will pay off :smile:

just nice to know there are other people in the same boat!

Reply 15

DarkDragoness

I am staying at home as well. I did my foundation year last year and found i made friends through the societies i joined. The best society i found was SSAGO as they just accepted me as i am and made adjustments where needed in the programme to allow me to try most of them even with my disabilities. They are a national organisation with societies in most unis. For more information see http://www.ssago.org/join?902

Reply 16

New- Emperor

I think it's got somthing to do with your transport and transport to uni I mean if you live a 10 min train ride away or there is a night bus back home that's probably ok I would sa a rul of them anything over 30 mins trip in you should consider halls. I am just saying that because sociitys usually meet in the evening and if you are restricted by trains or busses you will find socialising in the evening very hard. Also nights are usually random as in not planned . You can't do a unplanned night of you live outside the uni town. That's just what I think anyway. If you live over an hours away you can kiss a social life goodbye .