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    Hi I'm gay. I am quite nervous coming out to my friends and relatives. My mum is the only one that knows I'm gay. I think my older sisters and close fiends have an idea that I am. I want to come out to them i just don't know how to.

    I've been through this too and I totally understand how nerve wracking it is. I'd say maybe speak to a close friend first, either in private or via text if you prefer. I came out to my best friend over text and it helps if you struggle with getting the actual words out in the real situation.
    If you want to do it face to face then that's also fine! You don't need to make a big deal of it, maybe just take your friend aside when you see them and say that you need to tell them something.

    Another option (one which I use now when I'm coming out to people I don't know very well) is just to drop it casually in a conversation - my method is to casually mention my ex boyfriend, or say how I went on a date with a guy the other day but it didn't work out.

    I'd also say try not to keep it so serious - you're not telling them dreadful news, you're just telling them another fact about yourself. And be proud!

    I don't know how useful this is, but I wish you the best of luck and my thoughts are with you! And I know it's the age old saying that gets really really annoying, but I promise it gets so so much easier! People are gonna love you bro, go kick ass and be gay!
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