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How to deal with manipulative friend?

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    My friend is very high-maintenance and manipulative, most likely without even knowing. She keeps calling me out on ridiculous things and requesting the impossible from me and it's driving me nuts. Initially I felt awful for hurting my friend but the list of "why I'm a bad person" just kept getting longer to a point where I knew it maybe wasn't just me.

    We're living together next year and I don't want to make things awkward but I know the only way I can stop this is by bringing it up with her. I'd love to be more emotionally mature and just deal with it but I'm annoyingly sensitive and it's really getting me down. I'm treading on eggshells around her, she's talking smack about my boyfriend, she's trying to kick another girl out of our friend group because she upset her, etc.

    Should I have a civil discussion about her behaviour or just leave it? If I was acting that way towards people unknowingly I'd appreciate someone telling me but, again, I'm living with her next year and if there's any chance of me also getting kicked out my friend group I'm just going to keep quiet.

    Any help will be appreciated, thanks
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