I've been good friends with a guy for about 7 months, and until a few weeks ago, we used to talk more or less every day with just a couple of exceptions.
I've always had feelings but for him it never went any further than sexual attraction and wanting to be FWB (tried, but I ended up getting attached). I fell in love with him and things became complicated between us. He knew my feelings and said that whilst I was amazing with everything going for me and beautiful he was still in love with his ex and didn't see it working with me.
I tried not seeing for a while, going on other dates, repeating to myself his bad points over and over (which I know he does have) but nothing worked.
He has moved abroad now, but we stayed in touch online. I unfortunately had to stop the friendship and sent him a msg explaining why I had deleted him as a friend and deleted his number, and he was disappointed but seemed to understand.
He said he was really sad for me but couldn't force it with me, and plus he was in another country now.
I know he's really not worth it and he says so himself but I've felt this way for 7 months. He felt really bad, and so I just ended up telling him that I was totally over it all and that I knew we weren't right for each other, had finally realised etc. and that I was no longer interestedin anything more. (It's not entirely true, but I didn't want him to feel bad about me)
We've exchanged the odd msg here and there and he's going to be in the area soon and has asked to meet up for a drink. I've agreed. I don't think it will change anything.
I've made clear to him that he was one of my best friends and that I really did want his friendship, I wasn't going to cut him from my life forever etc. but to be honest, I don't know if our friendship can be the same, for a while at least.
Any other advice? I'd love to just have zero feelings for me. He's not always been great with me, and I can even recogise that. Will it really take me having to meet someone else?
We're barely in contact at all, I don't have him on fb, and I don't even see him anymore.. just really want to fully get over him..
I love my friend
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