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Why bother with a post grad? Are they even worth it? Have your say! 26-10-2016
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    So ive decided to take a gap year and defer my place at university. I want to earn some money and travel for a year. I would like to put some money aside for uni then go travelling through a job and also go travelling. Although i did not tell my parents until the day of results when they asked me what I wanted to do. TTaking a gap year was my plan no matter what my results were even when signing up for UCAS. I think they feel like it came out of nowhere which i can understand. They are want me to carry on with uni this year even though i have nothing in terms of books, laptop ect. They told me if I was to take a gap year that i would to pay the bills which i was going to suggest but they also told me that if I was to ask to go out for any functions with friends they would most likely say no. Now im not saying im a party animal but most of my friends would be at uni or college anyway so i wouldn't even be going out frequently, especially when i would be working most of the time.I feel like this is unfair and its almost a scare tactic. I think they are afraid that i wont go to uni and ill lose interest even though I know i will go in a year's time. I have a job but the hourly pay is not too high so they want me to look for another, which i am doing. I just want some advice on how to approach them about their rules so we can reach a middle ground.

    You probably should have told them earlier on about your plans to take a gap year so it was less of a shock to them.
    The going out rule they've given you is over the top, at this point they can't tell you no you must not go out
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