My mother is notorious for having the worst temper imaginable. She screams and shouts at the smallest things and then wonders why I feel like I can't talk to her. When she goes on one of her little tantrums I will wait until it's over, go and talk to her about it but she insists that she does not over react and that I am in the wrong.
Example: about a year ago I was away from college for two months due to anxiety problems and I found out a few days ago that because of this I won't be invited back for the second year (which is fine as I was going somewhere else anyway). When I was telling my mum she was coming across as rude and irritated even though she was perfectly aware of the circumstances and had accepted them ages ago. When I asked her why she was coming across as rude she insisted that she wasn't, I persisted and assured her she was, so she started screaming at me and told me I'm 'a lazy little ****er that needs to get a job,' before storming out of the room.
My question is simple: how do I deal with this? She is so unapproachable but there's only so many more times I can deal with her tantrums before I lose the lid myself, and I'm generally quite calm and I try not to react to her when she's yelling in my face.
Mum has an awful temper and says horrible things