Why are most women online like this?

Original post by Portgas.D.Grade

Women are super shallow and can express this freely online with no repercussions

Even in real life they do..

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Original post by Supersaps

It depends on the woman, of course.

Seen plenty of hot chicks with ugly blokes. Less so the other way around.

I'm not exactly sure what your study proved. Girls like attractive men?

SS

That's right, that's what my study proved. It also proved that they are looks-first, personality second.

Reply 22

Original post by Another

If they truly thought that way, they wouldn't be on a dating website.

I explicitly stated 'chat website', not dating website.

Reply 23

Another

Original post by 571122

I explicitly stated 'chat website', not dating website.

I had no idea these websites existed, my bad.
That being said - a bunch of girls saw your picture of a hot guy on a random online chat website, thought that it was actually your picture, then tried hitting on you? I can understand why you're losing faith in women lmao

What age range are we talking?

Reply 24

ChrisD0

I recon it's nigh impossible for a normal human being to forgo looks when seeking a mate.

Reply 25

Goaded

I thought that on dating website looks are the most important thing was well established for most people. They're not gonna look at your picture and go, "He might be really unattractive, but he might have a good personality so I'll spend my time messaging this stranger just in case" you message the attractive people lol

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Original post by Another

20-30.

Reply 27

I've posted this before but these are some similar observations:

"As you can see from the gray line, women rate an incredible 80% of guys as worse-looking than medium. Very harsh." - https://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dating/

More very interesting reads: http://jonmillward.com/blog/attraction-dating/cupid-on-trial-a-4-month-online-dating-experiment/

https://sirtyrionlannister.wordpress.com/2014/02/23/female-mating-skew-ii-supported-by-online-dating-experiment/

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Original post by 571122

Even in real life they do..

I find it absolutely hilarious, that you think that men would be any different. Absolutely hilarious.

Reply 29

Original post by redbronze1

If you are looking for an interesting read, may I suggest you actually chose something evidence based? Some, I don't know let's go a little crazy, peer-reviewed research?

This study seems to pretty much support previous research on mate selection outside of the realms of online dating. That people's owns perceptions of attractiveness affects their selection of partners, but with males being less influenced by their perception. I haven't read it. http://pss.sagepub.com/content/19/7/669.short

http://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11129-010-9088-6

http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/Papers.cfm?abstract_id=895442

http://www.ingentaconnect.com/content/aea/aer/2010/00000100/00000001/art00005

Reply 30

vybzkartel

it's online dating, the first "barrier" is looks, that's just the forefront of these things.

irl of course initially you'd go for someone you're more physically attracted to cause that's the most instantaneous attraction/connection you feel, but in real life you have the chance to get to know someone for a longer amount of time and also not under a strictly dating atmosphere, which means girl/guy can fall for each other even if they're not ridiculously good looking...

Online, yeah you can converse, but nothing beats the presence of someone and the long term attachment that forms.

also generally, ive seen more good looking females with less physically attractive males, although the other way round does happen.

Maybe you feel what youve found is "shocking" cause people seem to assume females aren't visually stimulated for some unknown ****ing reason.

(edited 7 years ago)

Reply 31

Original post by Twinpeaks

If you are looking for an interesting read, may I suggest you actually chose something evidence based? Some, I don't know let's go a little crazy, peer-reviewed research?

Do you think the data provided by OKCupid is incorrect? Not evidence based?

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Original post by redbronze1

Do you think the data provided by OKCupid is incorrect? Not evidence based?

It's simply not science, therefore the data doesn't mean much.

Reply 33

Original post by Twinpeaks

It's simply not science, therefore the data doesn't mean much.

So are you saying the survey done by OKCupid themselves was not valid?

Reply 34

Original post by redbronze1

So are you saying the survey done by OKCupid themselves was not valid?

Unless they provide us with the details of the design, details of the statistical tests used (if any?), the hypotheses addressed, yes, I am saying it's not valid. Nothing seems operationalised, who determines the attractive ratings of the photos in the first place?
Read one of the studies I provided, take a look at the methods and results sections, and look back at that blog post.

Reply 35

scrotgrot

Original post by Nirvana1989-1994

I'm fully aware of that. But, let's be honest here, why do they lust over people like Margot Robbie, and Kate Upton, because they're good looking, and that goes for everyone not just guys. And, I know how it goes, I'm on Tinder. :colonhash:

Duh, the point is we know Margot Robbie isn't going to swipe us right on Tinder and say "hey babe how you doing".

Women aren't able to separate fantasy from reality, largely because they have the advantage in the dating game until age 30 and often will genuinely have had brushes with male celebrities/rich men etc that suggest they have a chance. Because of the premium on female youth and beauty and the premium on male social status and affluence, essentially men's formative experiences harden them while women's spoil them.

Reply 36

Nirvana1989-1994

Original post by scrotgrot

Duh, the point is we know Margot Robbie isn't going to swipe us right on Tinder and say "hey babe how you doing".

Wasn't even close to insinuating that. :colonhash:

Original post by scrotgrot

Women aren't able to separate fantasy from reality, largely because they have the advantage in the dating game until age 30 and often will genuinely have had brushes with male celebrities/rich men etc that suggest they have a chance. Because of the premium on female youth and beauty and the premium on male social status and affluence, essentially men's formative experiences harden them while women's spoil them.

And, lol sure.

Reply 37

Original post by Twinpeaks

Unless they provide us with the details of the design, details of the statistical tests used (if any?), the hypotheses addressed, yes, I am saying it's not valid.

That's probably in the book mentioned in the blog. The man himself says - "Buy my book! It's got stats, analysis, and data from all over".

You can contact him here if you're sceptical: https://twitter.com/christianrudder

Either way, you haven't proven that the actual content is false.

Original post by Twinpeaks

Nothing seems operationalised, who determines the attractive ratings of the photos in the first place?

OKCupid users are the ones that determine the attractiveness ratings of the photos.

Reply 38

Allie4

women are simply nicer by nature therefore we don't openly admit that we also judge on looks, to spare peoples feelings.
i thought we didn't have to, it was pretty obvious that we are exactly the same...

"As a male, I am guilty of rejecting women based on their looks.. but my bubble was burst when all of a sudden I see women doing the same thing to men"

oh I do LOVE irony!

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