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    I just moved into uni halls and I don't really get along with my roommates, basically I tried to go into the Kitchen to get my food but I heard my roommates and like 4 other random people just talking and then it hit me, I froze up and just couldn't even force myself to get my noodles out of the damn microwave. On another note they probably have already judged me before considering I'm brown/Arabian and didn't really talk to me that much even though I kind of made an effort but whatever. Back to the point, I didn't even think Social Anxiety was a real thing before this, If someone told me they had Social Anxiety before I would just laugh and say "man up".

    So yeah I think I have some kind of Social Anxiety, I keep telling myself "**** them, who cares what they think" but for some reason it won't go away, I also haven't made any friends yet so that could be the problem already. Moral of the story is: Social Anxiety is a real thing and I experienced what it's like to have your body freeze up and have a little voice in your head telling yourself "what if this happens or what if this happens".
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    Hi, I think what you feel is normal. A lot of people are moving into situations with new people and new challenges and even new characters. At first it'll be really odd but what I suggest you do is approach some people slowly and just introduce yourself and try to get on friendly enough terms.
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    (Original post by hm230897)
    I just moved into uni halls and I don't really get along with my roommates, basically I tried to go into the Kitchen to get my food but I heard my roommates and like 4 other random people just talking and then it hit me, I froze up and just couldn't even force myself to get my noodles out of the damn microwave. On another note they probably have already judged me before considering I'm brown/Arabian and didn't really talk to me that much even though I kind of made an effort but whatever. Back to the point, I didn't even think Social Anxiety was a real thing before this, If someone told me they had Social Anxiety before I would just laugh and say "man up".

    So yeah I think I have some kind of Social Anxiety, I keep telling myself "**** them, who cares what they think" but for some reason it won't go away, I also haven't made any friends yet so that could be the problem already. Moral of the story is: Social Anxiety is a real thing and I experienced what it's like to have your body freeze up and have a little voice in your head telling yourself "what if this happens or what if this happens".
    Hello,

    First of all, as someone who suffers from anxiety and social anxiety, I'm insulted at the viewpoint that you had and a part of me doesn't want to help you because it's karma for having that viewpoint on a very sensitive and difficult matter.

    If I laughed at you and told you to "man up" now, how would you feel? You'd feel like I'd done very little to help you and just brushed off your problems but no. I wouldn't do that because social anxiety is serious and uncontrollable and horrible.

    It's good to know that you've realised it's a real thing but don't think you've found a moral high ground by realising this when you shouldn't have brushed it off all along.

    Social Anxiety is difficult to deal with - my suggestions is you start talking to one person at a time before dealing with your whole flat as a whole. Your downfall is thinking they have already judged you - people aren't that shallow at university and you shouldn't think they've already judged you because if you get that in your head, you'll start acting in a way which will push you away from them. Start talking to one person at a time and building it up until you are comfortable with your flat.

    Good luck, and never, EVER, judge everyone or use those words again on someone that suffers from anxiety or social anxiety.
 
 
 
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