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    I'm 27 years British Indian and still a virgin. I've been rejected by every girl I've tried with - I'm never been on a date. I've tried Tinder with no success. I've tried meetup and that hasn't gone so well - I'm going to a few more meetup events this week to see if its still worth trying. I've tried being friends with girls first but that hasn't worked out either.

    I have a speech impairment so talking is not so easy - I didn't talk much when growing up which meant I didn't really develop social skills until I went to university (which is why I'm still keen to go to meetup events as I'll be putting myself out there). I've been reading up on autism recently and I think I'm partly autistic, although I'm going to have to go and get a professional opinion on this obviously.

    I'm seeing friends of mine getting married. I'm seeing people at work in relationships. It makes me feel sad and depressed. My living situation isn't ideal either as I have no privacy. There's a lot of pressure at work at the moment as well along with the financial pressures of living in London. All of this is making me think of going to an escort to lose my virginity. But I don't want to. I want to actually have sex with someone I care about and who cares about me. But at the same time as I get older being a virgin is increasingly getting to me. I don't want to hit 30 and still be a virgin. Every year I keep thinking that this year will be different, but it isn't.

    Have other people lost their virginity to escorts? If so, do you regret it?
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    Chill out man. Don't lose your virginity to an escort, you really want your first girl to be someone who doesn't even care about you?

    First up, work on your confidence then your appearance, so better clothes, wear good cologne, comb your hair, etc... No need to take drastic measures which you'll end up regretting. It's probably how you're approaching girls too, don't be so needy or desperate because girls can smell that and be easily put off.
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    I'm 27 years British Indian and still a virgin. I've been rejected by every girl I've tried with - I'm never been on a date. I've tried Tinder with no success. I've tried meetup and that hasn't gone so well - I'm going to a few more meetup events this week to see if its still worth trying. I've tried being friends with girls first but that hasn't worked out either.

    I have a speech impairment so talking is not so easy - I didn't talk much when growing up which meant I didn't really develop social skills until I went to university (which is why I'm still keen to go to meetup events as I'll be putting myself out there). I've been reading up on autism recently and I think I'm partly autistic, although I'm going to have to go and get a professional opinion on this obviously.

    I'm seeing friends of mine getting married. I'm seeing people at work in relationships. It makes me feel sad and depressed. My living situation isn't ideal either as I have no privacy. There's a lot of pressure at work at the moment as well along with the financial pressures of living in London. All of this is making me think of going to an escort to lose my virginity. But I don't want to. I want to actually have sex with someone I care about and who cares about me. But at the same time as I get older being a virgin is increasingly getting to me. I don't want to hit 30 and still be a virgin. Every year I keep thinking that this year will be different, but it isn't.

    Have other people lost their virginity to escorts? If so, do you regret it?

    I don't know if anyone would honestly admit to that. What I will say is instead looking at escort agencies perhaps you could join a salsa class or something similar as a way to meet new people.
    Also if you meet people with the intention of wanting sex, women can usually see through this and will avoid getting into a relationship where the main motivation is to get laid.As the previous poster said "chill out man"
    Be cool find or share your interests to increase your confidence. try and put sex to the back of your mind when you meet someone and focus and getting to know them and being interested in them (think 'something about Mary') The rest will come. Good luck
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    @UWS is right, mate. You need to work on yourself.

    Easier said than done, I know. Sometimes you can put in the effort and yield no results. Unfortunate it does take time but you have to keep at it in order to be successful. Nothing good ever came easy.

    Take up some new hobbies that'll put you in contact with other people, not just women, in order to improve your social skills. I'm very much in the same boat in regards to only really developing socially at uni, so I understand the struggles, but as long as you keep putting yourself out there then eventually you will find some success.
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    you're indian just ask your parents to find you a rishta
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    Describe your appearance to me
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    Describe your appearance to me
    Umm... I'm 5 foot 8. Short black hair. I've got a bit of a belly. I don't go to the gym any more, I used to but it didn't help my confidence at all. I wear office attire for work during the week and casual stuff at weekends.

    It doesn't help that I'm excluded from social activities at work as well.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Umm... I'm 5 foot 8. Short black hair. I've got a bit of a belly. I don't go to the gym any more, I used to but it didn't help my confidence at all. I wear office attire for work during the week and casual stuff at weekends.

    It doesn't help that I'm excluded from social activities at work as well.
    Go back to the gym and work out. Get rid of the belly, it might not make you go from zero to 100 in confidence but it will help. Grow a stubble, that suits most dark skinned guys. Wear nice aftershave too. What work activities are these?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 27 years British Indian and still a virgin. I've been rejected by every girl I've tried with - I'm never been on a date. I've tried Tinder with no success. I've tried meetup and that hasn't gone so well - I'm going to a few more meetup events this week to see if its still worth trying. I've tried being friends with girls first but that hasn't worked out either.

    I have a speech impairment so talking is not so easy - I didn't talk much when growing up which meant I didn't really develop social skills until I went to university (which is why I'm still keen to go to meetup events as I'll be putting myself out there). I've been reading up on autism recently and I think I'm partly autistic, although I'm going to have to go and get a professional opinion on this obviously.

    I'm seeing friends of mine getting married. I'm seeing people at work in relationships. It makes me feel sad and depressed. My living situation isn't ideal either as I have no privacy. There's a lot of pressure at work at the moment as well along with the financial pressures of living in London. All of this is making me think of going to an escort to lose my virginity. But I don't want to. I want to actually have sex with someone I care about and who cares about me. But at the same time as I get older being a virgin is increasingly getting to me. I don't want to hit 30 and still be a virgin. Every year I keep thinking that this year will be different, but it isn't.

    Have other people lost their virginity to escorts? If so, do you regret it?
    If you use the search feature then you will find loads of threads on this very subject with all the answers and opinions you will need. Its a regular topic. Do it if you think it solves your problem.
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    Love and sex and relationships are complicated and not something you can plan, it's more the case whatever happens happens. I think you try to be friends with girls but it may not be genuine as in your heard your thinking I need to lose my virginity and move fast within the relationship which may be a put off.

    My advice is to socialise, make mates BUT keep it platonic, also just socialise just in general as they say "there is someone for everyone".

    Get your confidence up, work out, read, get a hobby- be happy within yourself and the love will come to you.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 27 years British Indian and still a virgin. I've been rejected by every girl I've tried with - I'm never been on a date. I've tried Tinder with no success. I've tried meetup and that hasn't gone so well - I'm going to a few more meetup events this week to see if its still worth trying. I've tried being friends with girls first but that hasn't worked out either.

    I have a speech impairment so talking is not so easy - I didn't talk much when growing up which meant I didn't really develop social skills until I went to university (which is why I'm still keen to go to meetup events as I'll be putting myself out there). I've been reading up on autism recently and I think I'm partly autistic, although I'm going to have to go and get a professional opinion on this obviously.

    I'm seeing friends of mine getting married. I'm seeing people at work in relationships. It makes me feel sad and depressed. My living situation isn't ideal either as I have no privacy. There's a lot of pressure at work at the moment as well along with the financial pressures of living in London. All of this is making me think of going to an escort to lose my virginity. But I don't want to. I want to actually have sex with someone I care about and who cares about me. But at the same time as I get older being a virgin is increasingly getting to me. I don't want to hit 30 and still be a virgin. Every year I keep thinking that this year will be different, but it isn't.

    Have other people lost their virginity to escorts? If so, do you regret it?
    Type Citysocializer on google to meet friends then this can lead to a relationship too
    Or just ask women out on the street, supermarkets, etc because many people have met their partners this way as you do not have to only meet women on dating sites or clubs as that does not work for everyone either

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