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16 year old and 18 year old long distance

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    Hey everyone,

    I went on a date a few days ago with someone I've known for over a year off tinder now. We used to speak occasionally but with such a big distance between us, it was always just meaningless chat. However, I'm moving to uni next month in a city much closer to them (about 2 hours on the train or an hour each to meet in the middle). In a way, I regret going on the date because it's just complicated things massively as I'm now very unlikely to be single for freshers and I'm going to enter a long distance relationship - something everyone tells you to avoid. But we both hit it off really well, in a unique way. We'd known each other so long already that when we actually met up, everything just felt right.

    Just to make things even more annoying, they're 16 and I'm 18. Unfortunately, despite them being 16, they've only just started year 11 since they're 1 day out of the catchment for sixth form. They're the oldest in their academic year, and I'm one of the youngest in mine. But year 11 and 1st year of uni just sounds really weird, whereas sixth form and uni does not - and it's just 1 day that would make all the difference. Is it weird? Am I a creep?

    They are very mature for their age, both academically and emotionally. I'm probably a little immature emotionally which might be why it feels right. Everyone thinks they look older than me as well which they do - so again, it's just a really unique set of circumstances. Any advice? :/

    I know a lot of people will just say "end it while it's early" but it's physically so hard to do that, we're getting on so well
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    Hey everyone,

    I went on a date a few days ago with someone I've known for over a year off tinder now. We used to speak occasionally but with such a big distance between us, it was always just meaningless chat. However, I'm moving to uni next month in a city much closer to them (about 2 hours on the train or an hour each to meet in the middle). In a way, I regret going on the date because it's just complicated things massively as I'm now very unlikely to be single for freshers and I'm going to enter a long distance relationship - something everyone tells you to avoid. But we both hit it off really well, in a unique way. We'd known each other so long already that when we actually met up, everything just felt right.

    Just to make things even more annoying, they're 16 and I'm 18. Unfortunately, despite them being 16, they've only just started year 11 since they're 1 day out of the catchment for sixth form. They're the oldest in their academic year, and I'm one of the youngest in mine. But year 11 and 1st year of uni just sounds really weird, whereas sixth form and uni does not - and it's just 1 day that would make all the difference. Is it weird? Am I a creep?

    They are very mature for their age, both academically and emotionally. I'm probably a little immature emotionally which might be why it feels right. Everyone thinks they look older than me as well which they do - so again, it's just a really unique set of circumstances. Any advice? :/

    I know a lot of people will just say "end it while it's early" but it's physically so hard to do that, we're getting on so well
    PS - we're both guys
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    I personally think the age gap is fine, if you really like him then you should go for it and see how it goes, you may look down the line and live to regret it, whatever feels right for you, you should do. ❤️
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hey everyone,

    I went on a date a few days ago with someone I've known for over a year off tinder now. We used to speak occasionally but with such a big distance between us, it was always just meaningless chat. However, I'm moving to uni next month in a city much closer to them (about 2 hours on the train or an hour each to meet in the middle). In a way, I regret going on the date because it's just complicated things massively as I'm now very unlikely to be single for freshers and I'm going to enter a long distance relationship - something everyone tells you to avoid. But we both hit it off really well, in a unique way. We'd known each other so long already that when we actually met up, everything just felt right.

    Just to make things even more annoying, they're 16 and I'm 18. Unfortunately, despite them being 16, they've only just started year 11 since they're 1 day out of the catchment for sixth form. They're the oldest in their academic year, and I'm one of the youngest in mine. But year 11 and 1st year of uni just sounds really weird, whereas sixth form and uni does not - and it's just 1 day that would make all the difference. Is it weird? Am I a creep?

    They are very mature for their age, both academically and emotionally. I'm probably a little immature emotionally which might be why it feels right. Everyone thinks they look older than me as well which they do - so again, it's just a really unique set of circumstances. Any advice? :/

    I know a lot of people will just say "end it while it's early" but it's physically so hard to do that, we're getting on so well
    I'm gay too, 18 and 16 is quiet a big jump in life transformation as your the start of becoming a man and his still developing but you could help him out etc, so I wouldn't say its a bad thing.

    I was in LDR, the guy I was with just " got bored ", I am 18 and his 20 (6 months LDR) but not all LDR fail, just be warned 16 to 18 years old they can change I'm the oppersite of what I was at 16 years old.

    Remember to communicate DAILY, if you start not to is when it goes downhill, coming from experience.

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