Is it unfair to judge a Woman on her past?

gender is irrelevant

Why are you even contemplating being with someone that _you_ feel comfortable giving a complete character assassination? Is there actually anything you like about her or were you hoping for a virginal princess with no history, sexual or otherwise?

People with mental health difficulties don't always make perfect partners but compassion is nice to have.

I don't think being upfront about your past makes you proud of it. Just that you felt it was important to share and be honest. I'm glad that my partner is mature enough that he didn't come online and ask a bunch of strangers whether I could be forgiven for my past. And he might have more cause to as I was a sex worker. But he listened to the context and didn't feel the need to check that his man status hadn't changed.

find someone better

I'm in my early 20s, not perfect but I met a woman who's 30 recently and we really hit it off.

However shes has a LOT of bad things in her past. I'm not misogynist and I have obviously slept with girlfriends but she did a load of crazy stuff when she was my age or younger. Her parents were rich but really liberal so she did stuff like **** a guy in the middle of a crowd at a gig when she was 16, or drugs at boarding school though she was never an addict. And she was a FWB with her flatmate at uni which apparently got awkward. She also got a tattoo at 14 as a dare though I know her dad and he is classy. Obviously she's older now but still a bit of "party girl" though she has a good job as do I.

I have told her all the things from my past too, but I find it hard to think about hers. She is really hot, and has a good career and law degree so I'm surprised she isn't taken is that a red flag? Also I'm not really worried about this but she has a lot of male friends around her age she flirts with too.