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    Hey, basically I am in need of some advice. I have been speaking to a guy for a few weeks and we've been getting on great. On Sunday we met up for our first date and it went absolutely perfect.

    He told me he felt very comfortable around me and thought I was lovely. We shared a very passionate kiss and we both agreed we are pretty eager to meet again.

    We were texting yesterday and out of honesty he told me that he had also recently been on a date with someone else, which went well. He said he felt he was in a predicament as he doesn't know what to do at the moment. I can't help but feel I'd be option number 2 or that I'm in competition with this other guy he's seeing. Any advice would be great. Thank you.
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    I'm confused. Are you a girl seeing a bisexual guy or a guy seeing a gay guy? Or did you mean he's seeing another girl? Not that it makes a difference but I'm interested.

    Anyway, it's still in the early stages so he can date anyone for now. He hasn't committed himself to anyone so you are still an option. Keep the momentum going and grab his attention. Also no harm in you finding other guys in the meantime. You aren't in a relationship so it's all fair game.
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    That's how the dating game works I'm afraid, they say you shouldn't put all your eggs in one basket. Don't get attached so early on and date other people in the meantime.
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    (Original post by Mj2014)
    Hey, basically I am in need of some advice. I have been speaking to a guy for a few weeks and we've been getting on great. On Sunday we met up for our first date and it went absolutely perfect.

    He told me he felt very comfortable around me and thought I was lovely. We shared a very passionate kiss and we both agreed we are pretty eager to meet again.

    We were texting yesterday and out of honesty he told me that he had also recently been on a date with someone else, which went well. He said he felt he was in a predicament as he doesn't know what to do at the moment. I can't help but feel I'd be option number 2 or that I'm in competition with this other guy he's seeing. Any advice would be great. Thank you.
    You need to know how you feel about it .

    Its not uncommon to casually date more than one person, bit if it progresses then its usual to choose. People date like that in the USA. He has told you and isnt hiding anything.

    At some stage as long as you decide its mutually exclusive (you shouldnt date anyone else) that you are in a more than casual relationship, then they should stop dating anyone else. A common line might be if you sleep with someone. Its up to the parties to decide if they are in a relationship and are a couple.

    If you are against the idea of your potential dating someone else casually, then tell them its not for you. Either way is normal, so you should do what feels right to you.

    These days its not uncommon for someone to try several dates as a result of online dating. Nothing to get too worried about.
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    Fair's fair:

    Ask him for an introduction to this other guy he went on a date with so that you can have an intimate date with him too.
 
 
 
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