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    (Original post by the bear)
    it would be better to stop all contact with her. she sounds like a troublemaker. *
    I was thinking a more defensive strategy. If it all goes Pete Tong, he's got no protection
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Okay i am worried about getting in trouble. I recently just turned 18 and i have been talking to a 15 year old friend of mine, i have been flirty/cheeky at times. No nudes,no sex and no kissing. I have cuddled her once. Her ex boyfriend said i was only talking to her for sex and i explained that wasnt the case. She ignored me and i asked what was was wrong she said **** off you pedo you used me for sex. I havent had sex with her but thats why she thinks i was talking to her. I did some googling and found grooming but realistically can i get in trouble i am sick with worry and i only wanted a girlfriend
    Your fine you were talking to her that's all .
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    You know that she is just 15 and you know it's wrong to be talking to her.

    Now cut contact and talk to people your own age.

    Drop it and move on before you get accused of anything by anyone else.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Okay i am worried about getting in trouble. I recently just turned 18 and i have been talking to a 15 year old friend of mine, i have been flirty/cheeky at times. No nudes,no sex and no kissing. I have cuddled her once. Her ex boyfriend said i was only talking to her for sex and i explained that wasnt the case. She ignored me and i asked what was was wrong she said **** off you pedo you used me for sex. I havent had sex with her but thats why she thinks i was talking to her. I did some googling and found grooming but realistically can i get in trouble i am sick with worry and i only wanted a girlfriend
    I'm reporting you to the police.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I was attracted to her but i wasnt trying to have sex with her
    It's probably best not to be attracted to 15 year old girls and as mich as you'd like to deny it, if a relationship were to form, sex would eventually happen hopefully though when she wasn't still 15.
    I'd say keep clear of her, don't make things messy for yourself
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    (Original post by Reshard1977)
    I'm reporting you to the police.
    He technically haven't done anything illegal
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    (Original post by sh9)
    You know that she is just 15 and you know it's wrong to be talking to her.

    Now cut contact and talk to people your own age.

    Drop it and move on before you get accused of anything by anyone else.
    Theres hardly anyone in the area i live in and the girls from my year wouldnt like me i used to be fat and tinder etc i get zero matches on since being 18. All the girls in my area eithrt have a boyfriend or dont talk or know me. I only met this gitl through anothrt girl in her year whose 16 who ive been friends with since i was younger
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Theres hardly anyone in the area i live in and the girls from my year wouldnt like me i used to be fat and tinder etc i get zero matches on since being 18. All the girls in my area eithrt have a boyfriend or dont talk or know me. I only met this gitl through anothrt girl in her year whose 16 who ive been friends with since i was younger
    Just don't chase 15 year olds dude, it's simple.

    No friends your own age who could introduce you to someone more age appropriate?
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    What is an offence? Looking at the Sexual Offences Act 2003, there's...

    9.Sexual activity with a child - not done
    10.Causing or inciting a child to engage in sexual activity - not done
    11.Engaging in sexual activity in the presence of a child - not done
    12.Causing a child to watch a sexual act - not done
    13.Child sex offences committed by children or young persons - n/a
    14.Arranging or facilitating commission of a child sex offence - not done

    and the one you've looked up,

    15.Meeting a child following sexual grooming etc.

    That involves actually meeting them, or travelling with the intention of meeting them, with the intention of doing something that would be an offence (i.e. the stuff above).

    You've not done that, and you're not going to do that, not least because..

    She ignored me and i asked what was was wrong she said **** off you pedo
    .. it's screamingly obvious that she's not interested.
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    (Original post by unprinted)
    What is an offence? Looking at the Sexual Offences Act 2003, there's...

    9.Sexual activity with a child - not done
    10.Causing or inciting a child to engage in sexual activity - not done
    11.Engaging in sexual activity in the presence of a child - not done
    12.Causing a child to watch a sexual act - not done
    13.Child sex offences committed by children or young persons - n/a
    14.Arranging or facilitating commission of a child sex offence - not done

    and the one you've looked up,

    15.Meeting a child following sexual grooming etc.

    That involves actually meeting them, or travelling with the intention of meeting them, with the intention of doing something that would be an offence (i.e. the stuff above).

    You've not done that, and you're not going to do that, not least because..



    .. it's screamingly obvious that she's not interested.
    Are hugs classed as sexual ?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Theres hardly anyone in the area i live in and the girls from my year wouldnt like me i used to be fat and tinder etc i get zero matches on since being 18. All the girls in my area eithrt have a boyfriend or dont talk or know me. I only met this gitl through anothrt girl in her year whose 16 who ive been friends with since i was younger
    That doesn't give you the right to "flirt" and "be cheeky" with a 15 year old whether or not she showed interest. You should know better.

    You need to be patient or work on yourself if the only girl you can hold a conversation with or get hugs from is underage.

    Do what you like, but pursuing her any further could ruin your life and you will only have yourself to blame.

    Aren't you going to/ready for uni? You'll meet loads of new people there.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Are hugs classed as sexual ?
    Only if they're intended to be, or an observer would go 'that's sexual'.

    So for 'a hug', no or more or less every relation of a child would be in deep in the smelly brown stuff. Stroking their breasts or bum probably would be, unless they'd asked you to straighten out a dress or brush some crumbs off.
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    (Original post by sh9)
    That doesn't give you the right to "flirt" and "be cheeky" with a 15 year old whether or not she showed interest.
    All of this.
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    Ever done jury duty? You'll become disillusioned with a lot of what goes on in courts. Usually it's the words of person 1 vs the words of person 2, actual evidence doesn't even need to be involved. In the court of law, it doesn't matter if your intentions were as pure as pure as the wind driven snow, young men are known for being salacious gits. This perception will never go away and will sway a considerable proportion of jurors in their judgment as neutral as they feign to be.

    At your age you shouldn't even be initiating contact with people younger than yourself. The fact that you feel "huggy" when you're around this 15 year old girl should scare you at the very least. Don't kid yourself, you want rumpy bad and you want it now. Stay away from teens, hang around with people your age or older.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    No i want someone to spent time with and care about me/cuddle. If its for sex i talk to girls over 16 and you can tell the difference by how i talk to them
    I would advise just focussing on people in your age range. She sounds immature, along with her weird friend.
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    Nothing will happen, but cut her off for your own sake anyway.

    (Original post by Twinpeaks)
    No. But sex is an element of it.
    Doesn't have to be.
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    (Original post by sh9)
    That doesn't give you the right to "flirt" and "be cheeky" with a 15 year old whether or not she showed interest. You should know better.

    I flirt with old ladies, cashiers, bank clerks whoever, it's a normal part of socialising, unless he literally asked for a shag you need to get over yourself.
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    (Original post by renphobia)
    she is technically under 18 so you shouldn't have even been 'flirty/cheeky' because that's a little concerning. it's a good thing it's over, really, you could've gotten into a lot of trouble if the authorities found out you were 'flirting' with a child.
    I suggest you learn a little aobut the law before making comments of this nature.

    unless the OP is in a position of responsibility in some way , the only offences would be underage sex if act sex took place ( i see a previous poster has listed which sections of the relevant legislat Have NOT been breached).



    slightly different i f the 18 year old is in a leadership / management position above the 15 year old.

    also a paedophile wouldn;t generally be interested in a 15 year old ...

    even if the law has been broken there is also the matter of the public interest test as to whether it is worth persuing things through the courts.
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    (Original post by MagnetoWasRight)
    I flirt with old ladies, cashiers, bank clerks whoever, it's a normal part of socialising, unless he literally asked for a shag you need to get over yourself.
    Lmao okay McLovin, the difference here is that the girl is 15 and so she is classed as a minor. An 18 year old pursuing a 15 year old is not acceptable in the UK.

    What don't you understand???
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    (Original post by sh9)
    Lmao okay McLovin, the difference here is that the girl is 15 and so she is classed as a minor. An 18 year old pursuing a 15 year old is not acceptable in the UK.

    What don't you understand???
    Flirting doesn't imply you're going to have sex

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