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Getting over trust issues/the past

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    Hi everyone,

    In the past I have had several bad relationships involving cheating lying etc. They have all betrayed me in one way or another (coming onto another girl, sleeping with another girl, lying about doing drugs, comparing me to other women, wasn't over his ex, one even admitted to only staying with me so long for sex). These are experiences I have had with different men.

    I am in a new relationship now and while I have no evidence that he is being unfaithful, I still really struggle to not worry about anything. I know not everyone is bad and unfaithful etc but I can't help but to struggle with this issue a lot. I don't know what to do anymore, I feel like I will never let myself trust anyone again but I want to have a happy trusting relationship. Has anyone been through this type of thing before or can give me advice? Thanks

    I can understand where you're coming from. Trust issues are never going to completely go away, you have to learn to accept them and how to manage them. Just because previous relationships haven't ended well, doesn't mean this will, it only takes one relationship to work to be happy It takes time, you just need to not let affect your relationship too much such as being controlling, as this will only push them away. Perhaps try not to get too attached and remember you have separate lives and they need space too, try and not expect too much and hopefully you won't get let down. Best of luck with it, I'm here to talk :hugs:
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