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    I'm 25, so I know there's still plenty of time, but..
    all I have had for the past few years is disappointment and heartbreak,and I'm known amongst my friends as the 'unlucky in love' one.

    I had a happy relationship from the ages of 18-21, but it ended due to long distance.

    After that, I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years, which ended with him cheating/getting with somebody else.

    Afterwards, I dated a guy for 2 months, but he said he didn't feel a connection with me and didn't want to be anything more than FWB.

    I met another guy later on who I pretty much fell in love with, but who only wanted to be friends due to him going abroad. I still have feelings for him and I'm struggling.

    I've been on other dates, but the guys I met were only interested in having sex right away.

    I've joined dating websites in the past, and whilst I know they are successful for many people, I didn't like them personally, and didn't meet anyone there either.

    I'm just sick of one heartbreak after another, and it seems like anyone who's nice and who i'm attracted to is just not interested or already in a relationship.

    I get told frequently that I'm really pretty and have a great figure, and people say that I'm incredibly kind, and funny, but I'm not sure I believe any of it. I know that I have a tendency to come across as very keen sometimes, and that it can put men off, but it's just the way I am.

    I feel like some people just expect perfection, and just because I might be a bit keen, or a bit shy, or something, then i'm not good enough. I like being single too, but I would like to meet someone. I cannot go through another heartbreak, I've just had enough. Any advice? Thank you
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    I think in the grand scheme of things you're actually doing alright for yourself. If you're getting dates, then that's something! BUT it does seem as if you're attracted to the wrong type of men, otherwise you would probably have more success.

    There's not really a lot to suggest other than to enjoy life, focus on yourself and keep doing what you're doing whilst practicing self-awareness of what you find attractive. Dating is mostly a game of hit-and-miss, but for all those misses you get closer to a hit.
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