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My boyfriend doesn't want to be in a relationship with me but is still texting me?

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    So my boyfriend of a few years broke up with me nearly a month a go. I never got a reason why. We were so perfect together, we never argued, always happy. We had even planned to move in together and there was talk of even kids one day.

    We had attended my friends wedding the week before. I thought everything was perfect, clearly not. A week later he started acting strange, slowly ignoring my texts and phone calls, until eventually he invited me over and casually told me he doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore. Obviously i was devastated and a lot of tears later from both of us ... I didn't leave, we just layed there cuddling each other? As if he didn't want me to go. Gradually over the month he has stopped texting me as much, so I slowly start getting the hint. However, when I think I've finally managed to think clearly, I get a text out of the blue saying I look beautiful in my recent insta picture, or that he misses me and that he can't sleep. He even took me out for dinner last weekend and cried in the my car about how he doesn't deserve me. I obviously told him it doesn't have to be like this, but he insists it does. We kissed and he left.

    I'm so confused right now, I just want him back the ways things were but he doesn't think it's that simple. I feel like a fool but I haven't been given an exact reason. It's nothing to do with me apparently, there isn't anyone else, he just wants time.

    Oh and did I mention, he's also My hairdresser...

    Has anyone else been through this before? If so please I need some advice. I physically can't eat, I can't sleep, I can't think of anything else.

    People are strange and hard to understand. Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. As someone who had a semi similar situation; block him on everything. If he can't offer you what you want from him then further contact will likely just hurt you.
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