Has anyone here ever had some hypnotherapy to help with anxiety/insecurities?
I'm really considering it. I'm 26, I seem normal and happy but I still have lots of insecurities deep down that affect me and also social anxiety. Sometime's when triggered these insecurities come out and I've witnessed people suddenly acting differently to me, I can tell they are thinking "this guy is weird" or they feel sorry for me. Maybe it's my pride but there's nothing more frustrating than having people feel sorry for me.
I lived in 5 different countries and 4 different primary schools as a kid. I was always short and skinny as a kid and looked a lot younger than my peers so I got teased and bullied. From year 7 - year 12 I literally had NO friends at all, even outside of school, apart from my sisters and parents I had no family in the uk. I just closed up and didn't speak to ANYONE in my school at all, a few words to teachers but that's it, it was like my way of making myself feel safe but of course people thought I was weird for not speaking and thought I was mentally disabled. I recently discovered something called 'Selective Mutism' and I think I definitely had that. Eventually I started playing online MMO video games and made some 'online' friends there, might seem silly but it really did help me to cope. Eventually I decided to move to a new college and my life changed for the better, I'm improved a lot since then.
For some reason sitting having dinner/lunch around a table with people gets me nervous, even my own friends. I get anxious and insecure and find it hard to make eye contact. Nothing to do with the act of eating, it's just because I'm scared of being judged and my face going red and people seeing me get embarrassed. I know that when we are sat around a table, if someone engages me in conversation, all attention and eyes will be on me, which gets me really nervous.
Also when ever someone brings up the topic of relationships with me, for example one time a friend of mine was joking with me about setting me up with a girl he knows, In my mind I KNOW HE WAS JOKING, but something in my head just trigger and I get reallly embarassed and anxious. Maybe I'm insecure about being single as well?
I also can't handle banter. There's been so many times where people make a joke to me in friendly banter. In my mind I fully know they are joking and I sometimes even find it funny, but my brain and body just reacts badly to it and I get really insecure and anxious. A lot of times people notice this and they feel like I can't take a joke, or they feel bad that they offended me, even though I'm not actually offended because I know they are joking! So frustrating.....
Hypnotherapy for insecurities/anxiety