How to stop caring for him when I feel he doesn't care as much for me

er i think he just doesnt want to be around you ALL the time lol
i wouldnt wanna be either
time away = time to miss that person

what he's doing is for the best of both of you


so what im saying is look beyond your "hurt". Personally I also wouldnt wanna be with someone Im into while im working cause its distracting.

So theres a guy at work and we both started a kind of relationship. We're both managers but he has a small power over me so he makes final decisions at work and allocates me where to go. There are 2 places I can be, either with him in the office, or at the shop which is 15 minutes away. Once youre at the office, youre there the whole day and if I'm at the shop I'm there the whole day, however he always has to be in the office. So whenever I can I try to be with him at the office but he send me to the shop sometimes for like a week straight even though its not completely necessary, I could stay at the office. I obviously then miss him and he says he missed me too but I feel like he's just lying, if he did he wouldnt send me to the shop. And I'm 100% positive I don't NEED to be at the shop, not for that many consecutive days anyway. So I get that he's clearly not into this "relationship" thing as much as I am.

We started out as FWB but I very quickly gained feelings for him and he has said to me that he likes me and he even buys me things quite often which makes me feel like he does genuinely have feelings for me. But then other times like how I've described above I feel like he's not interested at all and is just there for the sex, which tbh I'm fine with because thats the reason we started our FWB thing.

But my main question is how do I not care for him and not have feelings for him so that I don't get hurt when he sends me to the shop? I feel rubbish at the end of the day when he send me there. And also, what does it sound like to you guys? Is he just wanting FWB?

Just wondering how you getting on with your FWB situation? Am finding myself just like you at my work. Don't know what to do and feeling desperate and sad.

The situation has really been bringing me down up until last week. I've been at the shop so much that I hardly even see him so we haven't '"done" anything in about 3 weeks but I've gotten used to the fact I don't see him and have somehow managed to not feel much for him.

I suggest that you just give it some time and acccept it's just a fwb. If you can't accept that then I suggest you should just drop the fwb situation and try finding someone else. I know that's easier said than done but at the end of the day, it's not going to develop into a relationship

The situation has really been bringing me down up until last week. I've been at the shop so much that I hardly even see him so we haven't '"done" anything in about 3 weeks but I've gotten used to the fact I don't see him and have somehow managed to not feel much for him.

I suggest that you just give it some time and acccept it's just a fwb. If you can't accept that then I suggest you should just drop the fwb situation and try finding someone else. I know that's easier said than done but at the end of the day, it's not going to develop into a relationship

The situation has really been bringing me down up until last week. I've been at the shop so much that I hardly even see him so we haven't '"done" anything in about 3 weeks but I've gotten used to the fact I don't see him and have somehow managed to not feel much for him.

I suggest that you just give it some time and acccept it's just a fwb. If you can't accept that then I suggest you should just drop the fwb situation and try finding someone else. I know that's easier said than done but at the end of the day, it's not going to develop into a relationship

He's told me he's leaving his partner and will spend more time with me then. But i feel he mostly makes excuses to avoid seeing me unless he feels like a benefit. I don't want to leave my job incase i can't find something else. Its the first time i have had sex with anyone and don't know if thats why i feel bad. Maybe guilty or feel used in some way.

Do you miss not having sex for 3 weeks with him, or do you have other relationships? I don't even enjoy it much as its sore and he wants to go home as soon as he's done.

Thank you for getting back to me. I don't have anyone else i can ask these sort of things.

er i think he just doesnt want to be around you ALL the time lol
i wouldnt wanna be either
time away = time to miss that person

what he's doing is for the best of both of you


so what im saying is look beyond your "hurt". Personally I also wouldnt wanna be with someone Im into while im working cause its distracting.

do you actually enjoy the sex with him knowing thats all he really wants?

So theres a guy at work and we both started a kind of relationship. We're both managers but he has a small power over me so he makes final decisions at work and allocates me where to go. There are 2 places I can be, either with him in the office, or at the shop which is 15 minutes away. Once youre at the office, youre there the whole day and if I'm at the shop I'm there the whole day, however he always has to be in the office. So whenever I can I try to be with him at the office but he send me to the shop sometimes for like a week straight even though its not completely necessary, I could stay at the office. I obviously then miss him and he says he missed me too but I feel like he's just lying, if he did he wouldnt send me to the shop. And I'm 100% positive I don't NEED to be at the shop, not for that many consecutive days anyway. So I get that he's clearly not into this "relationship" thing as much as I am.

We started out as FWB but I very quickly gained feelings for him and he has said to me that he likes me and he even buys me things quite often which makes me feel like he does genuinely have feelings for me. But then other times like how I've described above I feel like he's not interested at all and is just there for the sex, which tbh I'm fine with because thats the reason we started our FWB thing.

But my main question is how do I not care for him and not have feelings for him so that I don't get hurt when he sends me to the shop? I feel rubbish at the end of the day when he send me there. And also, what does it sound like to you guys? Is he just wanting FWB?

It's best to stay with him, but find your life and do your things without him

I feel like thats what I'm working towards. Im not constantly thinking about him and the situation now, going to a hotel room with him now feels like a wee bonus. I feel like it near enough does sound like a fwb situation now, not many emotions, thankfully

I feel like thats what I'm working towards. Im not constantly thinking about him and the situation now, going to a hotel room with him now feels like a wee bonus. I feel like it near enough does sound like a fwb situation now, not many emotions, thankfully