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Why bother with a post grad? Are they even worth it? Have your say! 26-10-2016
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    There's a guy who my friend is convinced is interested in me, but he's never confirmed it.
    I think he's cool, but I wasn't interested like that. He used to msg me on facebook suggesting that the two of us meet up, but I always tried to make it into a group thing to send the msg across.
    I never flirted with him or said anything that might have made him think I was interested. I met up with some friends the other day, as I was back in town. One of my other friends invited him along, but I didn't knowhe was coming until he showed up. Apparently when he heard I'd be there ,he was really enthusiastic about coming.

    My friend said he seemed really disappointed because we hadn't talked as much as he'd hoped, nothing had happened etc.

    I felt bad, so I sent him a message thanking him for coming, wishing him luck with his studies, and saying see you soon. It was also to thank him for coming to meet us, and to just be polite.

    I told my friend and she said it really wasn't nice what I'd done, that I was maybe leading him on by messaging him like that.

    I told her that I just wanted to be polite and that i'd sent a short message to be friendly but that's all.

    Does it sound like I made a mistake? I know some people read into things more but I really don't see how that could be interpreted as me being interested.
    I've got some male friends who are very friendly with me, and who even flirt sometimes, but I know that they are not intrested.

    Hmm, overall I'd say that you didn't lead him on but at the same time your message was a bit insinuating, next time read it before you send it. I've known girls who would accept a date just for free food, now that right there is leading someone on.
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