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My family won't let me move out for uni, whats the point of me getting good grades?

In more detail, they want to me to stay local so I go to the uni in our area. This is all because of costs, they say it'll be better for me to keep my student loan at a minimum.

However, my predicted grades are ABB, which means I can go to a much better uni out of my area, but they're still reluctant.

The uni in my area's entry requirements are BBC.

If I'm going to end up staying here to go to the local uni, whats the point of me getting good grades like AAB/ABB, when I could just settle for BBC and get into my local uni?

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Original post by Hackerman
In more detail, they want to me to stay local so I go to the uni in our area. This is all because of costs, they say it'll be better for me to keep my student loan at a minimum.

However, my predicted grades are ABB, which means I can go to a much better uni out of my area, but they're still reluctant.

The uni in my area's entry requirements are BBC.

If I'm going to end up staying here to go to the local uni, whats the point of me getting good grades like AAB/ABB, when I could just settle for BBC and get into my local uni?


What costs? lol you'll still have to pay for travel for three years plus you've got to pay off the course cost when you still stay at home. It don't make a difference where you stay. IMO tell them that it's worth the money moving away as you'll gain independence skills and the 9,000 grand a year wont seem like a waste at all.
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Yeah, they said no mater what happens, its my choice what I do. Theyre just not fully convinced that its worth going to the better uni because of accommodation/food etc
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Original post by BigMan Ting
What costs? lol you'll still have to pay for travel for three years plus you've got to pay off the course cost when you still stay at home. It don't make a difference where you stay. IMO tell them that it's worth the money moving away as you'll gain independence skills and the 9,000 grand a year wont seem like a waste at all.


They dont think £3.5k per year for accommodation and food etc will be worth going to the better uni, know what I mean?
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Original post by Hackerman
They dont think £3.5k per year for accommodation and food etc will be worth going to the better uni, know what I mean?


If it's the difference between London Met and Cambridge then it's pretty obvious the 3.5K is worth it
Original post by Hackerman
They dont think £3.5k per year for accommodation and food etc will be worth going to the better uni, know what I mean?


I'm afraid the true cost is close to double that at most unis...
Original post by Hackerman
They dont think £3.5k per year for accommodation and food etc will be worth going to the better uni, know what I mean?


Cant tell if your parents are joking or they are well beyond incoherent to understand that obv paying that 3.5k for the better uni is worth it than going to South Bank/London Met or Northampton no offence
Original post by Hackerman
Yeah, they said no mater what happens, its my choice what I do. Theyre just not fully convinced that its worth going to the better uni because of accommodation/food etc


Thats different from your OP.

If its your choice, then they arent preventing you as per your OP.
Nothing to stop you applying to the best unis you can. You also have to get the grades.
Original post by Hackerman
Yeah, they said no mater what happens, its my choice what I do. Theyre just not fully convinced that its worth going to the better uni because of accommodation/food etc


Then they will let you move out!

They can't stop you doing anything - if you're of normal uni age you're an adult. If you think you're ready to move out then it's going to be better for you - it sets you up better for life. There's nothing wrong with staying at home, but if you want to move out you definitely should.

Also it's worth noting that there's in all probability never going to be a period of your life where you can live 'for free', socialise and enjoy yourself with so few commitments - the extra £10k is nothing. You might not even get around to paying your entire loan off, so what's the point in worrying just yet.
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Original post by bigwang
If it's the difference between London Met and Cambridge then it's pretty obvious the 3.5K is worth it


What about Newcastle Uni vs Salford Uni??
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Original post by AlexS101
I'm afraid the true cost is close to double that at most unis...


For Newcastle its like 3.2k-5k depending on the accommodation type you pick.
Reply 11
Original post by 1010marina
Then they will let you move out!

They can't stop you doing anything - if you're of normal uni age you're an adult. If you think you're ready to move out then it's going to be better for you - it sets you up better for life. There's nothing wrong with staying at home, but if you want to move out you definitely should.

Also it's worth noting that there's in all probability never going to be a period of your life where you can live 'for free', socialise and enjoy yourself with so few commitments - the extra £10k is nothing. You might not even get around to paying your entire loan off, so what's the point in worrying just yet.


Yeah very true.
However you made the last bit sound quite depressing lol. "You might not even get around to paying your entire loan off"
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Original post by BigMan Ting
Cant tell if your parents are joking or they are well beyond incoherent to understand that obv paying that 3.5k for the better uni is worth it than going to South Bank/London Met or Northampton no offence


What about Salford Uni vs Newcastle Uni? Worth it?
Original post by Hackerman
What about Newcastle Uni vs Salford Uni??


Depends for what course, I would probably say it is because Newcastle Uni is reputable whereas Salford Uni is a bit of a joke (no offence). It's about 50 places higher in the CUG rankings and even though you probably shouldn't use this guide because they pull most of their statistics from their arse, I think they are right on this one.
Hi
From personal experience. (I've applied to University now for 2017 entry). My parents were adamant on me staying at home. I made it clear I was moving out from the start. But we avoided conversation about it. it was a couple days before my internal UCAS deadline that I decided I had to talk to them about it. I am predicted 5A*s and my parents wanted me to stay at home and go to the local uni which has a really low entrance requirement. I didn't want to do this. I argued it out with them. It came to a compromise and I decided that I would switch one uni choice for another of their choice. I have no intention of going to that university. They cannot legally force you to do anything. Especially now that I am 18. So I will take my chances and leave home to go to a good University and get better Job prospects.
I think you should compromise, but at the end of the day, it is you decision as to what University you go to.
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Original post by bigwang
Depends for what course, I would probably say it is because Newcastle Uni is reputable whereas Salford Uni is a bit of a joke (no offence). It's about 50 places higher in the CUG rankings and even though you probably shouldn't use this guide because they pull most of their statistics from their arse, I think they are right on this one.


Thanks for the reply. The course is Computer Science.
That change anything??
Original post by Hackerman
Thanks for the reply. The course is Computer Science.
That change anything??


Yeah, defo worth it in that case. Also, I should have guessed from your picture:biggrin:
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Original post by Someboady
Hi
From personal experience. (I've applied to University now for 2017 entry). My parents were adamant on me staying at home. I made it clear I was moving out from the start. But we avoided conversation about it. it was a couple days before my internal UCAS deadline that I decided I had to talk to them about it. I am predicted 5A*s and my parents wanted me to stay at home and go to the local uni which has a really low entrance requirement. I didn't want to do this. I argued it out with them. It came to a compromise and I decided that I would switch one uni choice for another of their choice. I have no intention of going to that university. They cannot legally force you to do anything. Especially now that I am 18. So I will take my chances and leave home to go to a good University and get better Job prospects.
I think you should compromise, but at the end of the day, it is you decision as to what University you go to.


Thanks for your reply. And yeah we've basically kind of agreed that I can apply to Newcastle, Lancashire etc but still apply for Salford and Man Met just incase. By the way why was your UCAS deadline so early? Mine is in January. Is it because you're an oxbridge student? 5 A*'s is amazing.
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Original post by bigwang
Yeah, defo worth it in that case. Also, I should have guessed from your picture:biggrin:


Ayyyyyyyy :wink: haha

Thanks for all the info :P
apply to cambridge, get accepted, then be like "so r u gonna let me go"

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