How to attract girls??

hahah a risk having the most awkward working relationship. And besides i have zero chat-up ability. i was hoping its possible to attract a girl without chatting her up. Is it true that girls are only interested when they're chatted up?

Nah, legit. Find young nurses/other FYs/whoever, make chat, become friendly, then ask them out for a drink

Reply 41

Angry Bird

18

Original post by stefano865

lol never seen that.

What can I say?

Gym, haircut, new clothes. An understanding of body language and charisma.

Asking out 50 and getting nothing is quite worrying tbh. :redface:

if that includes cold approaches is that still bad?

Reply 42

user382

17

Original post by Angry Bird

if that includes cold approaches is that still bad?

hmmm

Probably. I'm no expert on cold approaches. :redface:

But I think these were largely girls he was acquainted with.

Reply 43

Pluto1

1

Original post by Anonymous

hahah a risk having the most awkward working relationship. And besides i have zero chat-up ability. i was hoping its possible to attract a girl without chatting her up. Is it true that girls are only interested when they're chatted up?

Nope, but a compliment never hurt anyone

Reply 44

Judge Jules

17

Original post by Anonymous

I really hope someone here can give me some advice. Basically for as long as i can remember I've had an exceptionally difficult time attracting girls. Over my lifetime I've probably asked out 50 or so girls and all of them ended in me not getting a date. Its now come to the point where i feel i need to address this issue. Im a doctor so i can't post a pic of myself due to professionalism issues but facially, i would consider myself below average or perhaps slightly below that even if I'm being brutally honest. I'm not fat and try to go to the gym but I've just started working as a FY1 junior doctor now so free time is difficult to come by. However, no matter what i do I've just never been able to attract a girl. Ever. I'm 24 this year and i've never even had a friend who was a girl let alone a girlfriend. It's frustrating as I've spent the last 6 years at Uni which is more than most but was just never able to attract someone. Ive tried tinder, online dating sites and cold approaching but none of them have worked. I read a lot about building attraction in girls such as flirting etc but tbh, I'm awful at flirting and it doesn't feel natural at all. i guess what my question is, what can i possibly do from here to get a girl?

Thanks in advance guys

Sign up with Citysocializer to meet friends and a girlfriend. It's brilliant
It's free to sign up but you pay £12 i think but can't remember exactly how much it costs if anyone contacts you to meet up but its good just to sign up for free just to see pictures of everyone on it and you can meet people in your own area too
They also show pictures of anyone who is single too

If you can't get a bird sign up with Seeking Arrangement as this is an escort/dating agency. If you want to pay to meet girls you sign up as a sugar daddy, if you want women to pay you then you sign up as a sugar baby but it does not have to be about sex as you decide this with anyone who replies to you and it's not just an escort service it is about being able to get an attractive girlfriend on it and that person can be exclusive only to you and become your girlfriend as it is possible
But remember if you think you would never pay for it that is exactly what men do if they meet women in a normal way because they still have to pay for presents, paying for meals, drinks, etc with girls they meet n clubs, bars

Look up Citysocializer and Seeking Arrangement on google and You Tube

Keep approaching women on the street to ask for a date as men have always asked me out this way. If women say no that's just the risk you take but maybe one day someone will say yes so you keep trying and never give up.
If you see a woman alone in a cafe, restaurant, coffee shop, cinema, library, park, supermarket, in a bar, club or standing outside of a club waiting to go home, at a bus stop, train station, etc, etc and you ask her out she will be happy you had the balls to approach her but only if she likes the look of you as i am so flaterred when a good looking man asks me out but not so much if an unattractive man does so it all depends on if the woman is attracted to you so this is why i tell people to do these things because i have met men i actually like his way and it's a great way to meet people as i don't go to clubs, bars or anywhere much but that is only because i do not have many friends to go with but i will start trying to do that more and to meet new friends on Citysocializer but i still like men asking me out on the street too because it's not my job to ask the man out and even if a woman is with friends still ask her on a date and don't be scared to just ask as it is harmless and not harassment.

Anyway i am not a troll as some idiot people on here think i am just for giving this advice, i am just giving people the benefit of my experience and from friends who have met their fiance and husbands by being asked out on the street so i know it works. You just have to put the hard work in and actually do it or be forever single.
It does not work for everyone as it is only luck if someone feels the same attraction to you but it's better than doing nothing and complaining you can't meet anyone like most people on here do

The knock backs will make you stronger but just remember lots of people get knock backs/ rejection

Go to these two threads of people who have similar experiences:

How to approach a girl in the uni library

Going to see escort but really have no choice what would you do ?

Reply 45

username1726117

14

Original post by stefano865

Women will be after that salary when they hit 30 and want to have babies.

Sad reality, which is why I'm not dating once I get a career, house etc.

OP; dating is hard for a lot of people. Best thing to do is spruce up your wardrobe, get some nice cologne, get an expensive haircut etc to look better. Join a few clubs etc to put yourself out there. Ask girls out for coffee. You need to be proactive, but don't make it your life.

Reply 46

user382

17

My comment was a little tongue in cheek.

Try not to let it cloud your view too much. Plenty of good women out there.

But clearly some men do end up being tied down as 'providers' and I don't envy them. Be savvy.

Reply 47

999tigger

19

You need to do an audit on yourself and check to see where you rate and what you cna improve.

You should also be looking at what your criteria are and where you are looking. If you havent had any success, then it could be you are approaching the wrong women, you are trying to go out of your league(although there are ways round it), that what your approach is wrong. Think there are several dating threads on TSR some of them from self proclaimed dating experts.

I would think its a bit looks, but also your technique is probably clumsy and off putting. You have a difficult time in that you will have such a time consuming job, but it should also attract quite a few due to status and decent salary. I see others have posted some good suggestions on alternate ways. Not sure Tinder is going to work for you, unless you have the looks.

You shoul eventually get plenty of offers. Confidence and your career should help.

(edited 7 years ago)

Reply 48

Alexion

17

my facebook profile picture and my taste in music were all it took in my case :wink:

but seriously, confidence.

couldn't be made more important, but that's the one thing that you need... just get out there, talk to people, seem interested, and voila

Reply 49

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by Alexion

my facebook profile picture and my taste in music were all it took in my case :wink:

but seriously, confidence.

couldn't be made more important, but that's the one thing that you need... just get out there, talk to people, seem interested, and voila

What do you mean by confident? If you mean talking to girls and carrying a conversation and making them seem interested and stuff, i know i can do that. But i don't really know what else to say to them?? I can very easily do a casual conversation and be interested, in fact, i probably talk too much. It just never materialises. Its clear its what I'm actually saying to them is where the problem lies, and my looks.

Reply 50

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by 999tigger

You need to do an audit on yourself and check to see where you rate and what you cna improve.

You should also be looking at what your criteria are and where you are looking. If you havent had any success, then it could be you are approaching the wrong women, you are trying to go out of your league(although there are ways round it), that what your approach is wrong. Think there are several dating threads on TSR some of them from self proclaimed dating experts.

I would think its a bit looks, but also your technique is probably clumsy and off putting. You have a difficult time in that you will have such a time consuming job, but it should also attract quite a few due to status and decent salary. I see others have posted some good suggestions on alternate ways. Not sure Tinder is going to work for you, unless you have the looks.

You shoul eventually get plenty of offers. Confidence and your career should help.

Ive read loads of the dating guru ebooks and blogs and although it seems really logical, its actually really complicated. Like one blog i read the guy said when you meet a girl say something witty to start with and at the same time look deeply in her eyes and at the same time keep your right hand over your left hand and at the same time sit with one leg over the other and at the same time.....the list just went on

And then it said to make sure you call her every night at 10pm for 1 hour and then miss 2 days out and then start a friendship with her friend to get into her social circle and make her jealous.....it just went on and on. Like if this is genuinely how hard it is then i don't know how everyone has the time or effort to ask a girl out

Reply 51

ioclops

7

Confidence and ambition. When Conor McGregor was just a mere plumber he already had a girlfriend that was willing to support him all the way through. Do you know why? Because he dreamt big and was confident in himself.

Reply 52

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by ioclops

Confidence and ambition. When Conor McGregor was just a mere plumber he already had a girlfriend that was willing to support him all the way through. Do you know why? Because he dreamt big and was confident in himself.

I am confident in myself and my abilities. I'd be pretty rubbish at my job if i wasn't. I have loads of goals in life and I'm always working towards them but that doesn't change the fact that girls just see me as just another guy working on his life. Theres something else that emotionally triggers a girl which I'm just not getting. Guys that have no job in life and just laze around playing video games have girls so it can't just be about what you aspire to and your goals.

Reply 53

Rhaenys10

20

Original post by Anonymous

I am confident in myself and my abilities. I'd be pretty rubbish at my job if i wasn't. I have loads of goals in life and I'm always working towards them but that doesn't change the fact that girls just see me as just another guy working on his life. Theres something else that emotionally triggers a girl which I'm just not getting. Guys that have no job in life and just laze around playing video games have girls so it can't just be about what you aspire to and your goals.

You got that right

Reply 54

999tigger

19

Original post by Anonymous

Ive read loads of the dating guru ebooks and blogs and although it seems really logical, its actually really complicated. Like one blog i read the guy said when you meet a girl say something witty to start with and at the same time look deeply in her eyes and at the same time keep your right hand over your left hand and at the same time sit with one leg over the other and at the same time.....the list just went on

And then it said to make sure you call her every night at 10pm for 1 hour and then miss 2 days out and then start a friendship with her friend to get into her social circle and make her jealous.....it just went on and on. Like if this is genuinely how hard it is then i don't know how everyone has the time or effort to ask a girl out

If you just run through the possibilities, then theres obviously something and it would appear to be quite obvious to anyone who meets you in person. do you have any friends especially female ones that know you and can give feedback?

Not trying hard enough, looking in wrong places (social activities, dating sites (not tinder)), too high expectations, not making yourself presentable, not confident or friendly or the opposite. If you have everything sorted out, then I would be going for different types of dating in different areas to increase the possibilities. That would just make it a numbers game.

Reply 55

Analyst89

20

Give yourself more opportunities.

Try online dating, going to speed dating events, joining a club out of interest such as a salsa dancing club, meeting women at work, at your education place, at the gym.

Also approach women, just go for it, such slow it down, relax, think of no outcome and say "I just saw you and just had to meet you". After that ask questions and play on the words.

The more you approach, the more opportunities you will have of getting a date.

Spice up your wardrobe, wear good clothes, smell well, have a good hairstyle, have things to talk about.

Good luck

Reply 56

Anonymous #4

Original post by SirMilkSheikh

Start lifting weights and start eating properly. A man with a good, strong body gets noticed. Don't be a nice guy. Be stoic, resilient, confident in what you do, and a bit selfish at times. Don't let people walk over you.

Pick up good hobbies that develop you as a man. Play some basketball (or cricket or football or badminton), ride a motorbike, shoot some guns, learn some woodcrafting, become bilingual.

Lifting weights isn't a hobby. It's a way of life for men who want to become mean and lean.

Don't be a time waster. Time is the most valuable thing in life, because it's finite and very limited. Once its gone, you die and get eaten by worms.

Ultimately you shouldn't be doing this for women but for yourself. Luckily for you, women will find you more attractive than before, if you start doing these things. Some men were born lucky, with good looks, good height, good hair genetics and good metabolism...but if you don't have these things you just have to work harder.

THIS. This guy is spot on with his reply, follow this and you'll be a real man. :king1:

Reply 57

333charcharchar

1

wear classy clothes , avoid common shabby cheap looking clothing- if you want a decent girl . wear decent average to expensive aftershave. smile a lot and be sure to look happy and fun to talk to! smarten yourself up!n try looking online at haircuts and consider trying for one. get out and about with your friends and make yourself a little more popular . also the worst thing you can do is to rush it! start talking to a few girls, be there for them when theyre at their lowest., make them smile and laugh. look after them as a good friend would. hopefully theyll start catching a few feelings and then you can take it from there. hope i helped. i know seems im a girl myself who likes girls

Reply 58

Zarek

21

I think if you're not in the very attractive set dating is very hard work whatever. Play to your strengths, work on your weaknesses. Hair, clothes, repartee can all be worked on. Get some advice from more successful mates. Don't just ask out babes. Find social situations where single people hang out. And as much as anything keep positive and keep going.

Reply 59

Judge Jules

17

Original post by Anonymous

I really hope someone here can give me some advice. Basically for as long as i can remember I've had an exceptionally difficult time attracting girls. Over my lifetime I've probably asked out 50 or so girls and all of them ended in me not getting a date. Its now come to the point where i feel i need to address this issue. Im a doctor so i can't post a pic of myself due to professionalism issues but facially, i would consider myself below average or perhaps slightly below that even if I'm being brutally honest. I'm not fat and try to go to the gym but I've just started working as a FY1 junior doctor now so free time is difficult to come by. However, no matter what i do I've just never been able to attract a girl. Ever. I'm 24 this year and i've never even had a friend who was a girl let alone a girlfriend. It's frustrating as I've spent the last 6 years at Uni which is more than most but was just never able to attract someone. Ive tried tinder, online dating sites and cold approaching but none of them have worked. I read a lot about building attraction in girls such as flirting etc but tbh, I'm awful at flirting and it doesn't feel natural at all. i guess what my question is, what can i possibly do from here to get a girl?

Thanks in advance guys

Try Happn dating site, It introduces you to people who live in your area.
I met a man on it a month ago who lives only 5 minutes from me. I was going to write a thread about a problem I had with this same guy 2 months before because he did not want to take me on a date first but wanted to meet at my place first but I never got round to it but by that time I'd already met him. Anyway after texting loads and talking on the phone just once we eventually met at my place and he was the perfect gentlemen and such a nice person. He used to be in a band a few years ago and he showed me a video of himself and his band playing which is great because he can teach me a few things as I'm not very good and always wanted to learn. I've been seeing him a few times now. I wrote 2 threads 2 days ago for people to try Happn

And Bigo Live which is where you can talk to people live or text them as I only found out about Bigo Live from a friend who told me about it a few days ago but the mods deleted both threads after 1 hour.

Also try Planet Rock Dating and Musicians Dating as I signed up with those 2 aswell and I got 200 messages on Planet Rock which is the most I've ever received on any dating site but I can't meet anyone because I met that bloke on Happn.

Also try Flirt Finder

Type all these names on Google to find out what their like

Dating sites don't always work for some people but you have to try any new ones that you hear about and stop putting an age limit on people you want to meet or you will stay single forever because the bloke I met is younger than myself. I wasn't sure if I should click on his picture because of that so I did not contact him for a few days then I just thought I'd contact him anyway as what's the harm? I didn't actually think he would reply back but he did and if I had not contacted him first he would never have contacted me first.

So stop looking at age and just choose someone even if they are a lot younger than yourself, eg, 18 or choose someone who is a lot older than you who is 30 or 40 +
And stop thinking that just because someone is younger than you are that they won't want to settle down, etc because there's no guarantee that anyone your own age will either or if the relationship won't last long just because someone is the same age as you are.

Negative people who tell others not to join certain dating sites or not to try other ways to meet like approaching on the street are the one's who are still single and stay single because just because something doesn't work for one person doesn't mean it won't work for anyone else. It's just luck if you do meet someone but the trick is to try everything and all different types of dating sites

Yesterday on Bigo Live one man who's 23 was saying that his friend met his girlfriend on it and he was saying he'll never meet anyone on Bigo who lives in his own area then 5 mins later a girl texted him on it and said she lives just up the road from him so they got chatting and he asked her to come to his flat with her friends on Saturday but She said she's going out with her friends but she will come next week. He had a 3 year old daughter and she had 2 small kids so they instantly had that in common. I think she was older but only by a few years maybe 26 but I can't remember her exact age.
I thought she should not just go to a stranger's flat but I couldn't tell her not to go because I did the same thing by letting a stranger into my home.
But it's not really a good idea for anyone to meet stranger's unless it's in a public place.

I thought it was a bit weird the bloke I met wanted to meet at my place first but then everyone is different so I realised that and decided to take the chance and luckily he wasn't a nut.
If I had not met anyone on Happn I still would still tell people to try it themselves as they might get lucky

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