Boyfriend likes to make me jealous

Tbh maybe it is a bit of an over reaction because he did tell u and he did tell those girls on his holiday that he has a gf and isn't interested. But u know what girls can be like when they like a guy. No matter how much he says no theyr so desperate that they will just throw themselves onto any guy. But dw he seems very decent kus he actually told u, he could have hidden it if he had done something to lead them on, but he doesn't seem to be putting u down or anything. Maybe he is just a tad bit too honest. Not that that's bad at all. Guys like that are great to have so dnt let ur anxiety take over

In all honesty the guy could be making it up for all you know. It may be true, most guys will get another girl eye them up at some point. Yeah some guys do have an ego that over the top. Thing with this is though I think he knows that it increases his sense of worth to girls by stating to them he has a girlfriend and to you that all these girls are interested in him. They may be, perhaps partly for the above reason, i.e he knows by showing his in demand he is more likely to be in demand - that he has worth. If it works for him its an easy game to play that always works in his favour. So he's playing you, if he keeps making you jealous he knows this works and you won't get bored of him and go with some other guy, even if your more naturally attracted to another guy than you are in him. He knows what button to push with you to keep you into him.

Tbh maybe it is a bit of an over reaction because he did tell u and he did tell those girls on his holiday that he has a gf and isn't interested. But u know what girls can be like when they like a guy. No matter how much he says no theyr so desperate that they will just throw themselves onto any guy. But dw he seems very decent kus he actually told u, he could have hidden it if he had done something to lead them on, but he doesn't seem to be putting u down or anything. Maybe he is just a tad bit too honest. Not that that's bad at all. Guys like that are great to have so dnt let ur anxiety take over

slight overreaction maybe but i can see how its getting to you. i think the best thing you can do is tell him that that is how you feel about these situations and you'd appreciate it if he didn't say those things. other than that, unless you think hes acting upon those things, i wouldn't worry too much.

That makes sense. I am his first girlfriend but he isn't my first boyfriend, so it could be a case of proving other girls like him like I have proof of two ex-boyfriends if you will. He doesn't know it makes me jealous. Whenever he says these things I don't say anything and just let it slide. I think he does it subconsciously (which is why I haven't called him out on it yet) but I do think you are right.

Yeah, whatever you do, don't let him know it makes you jealous, verbally or body language wise, try to keep the same as usual, no unusual silent periods. If he discovers it makes you jealous then you are giving him a powerful hold over you and he'll do it all the more. For sure he is using social proof to try and show you that he is worthy, I very much doubt he has suddenly become a sex bomb after all these years if he is your first girlfriend. He's mates might even be telling him to say it as they may have told him what works with women as they may well use the same technique too.

It may be petty but should I do it back? The only reason I haven't done this is that mine trump his by quite a way, for example, he tells me about a random girl liking him; I would be telling him that my ex messaged me asking to go out for a drink and a 'catch up' in a flirtatious way. You see what I mean? I don't want to make him feel like his position is threatened or jealous.

He is my third boyfriend, I'm his first girlfriend.

Very true! Thanks for all your help

Ok so I should start by saying that I like honesty in a relationship, so if a girl were to try it on with my fella I have no issue with him telling me because hes been truthful and I think thats the best way to be in the relationship.

However, I take issue with comments which are solely to make me jealous and to boost his ego. For example, we were talking about a mutual friend of ours that he met in a club one night. My bf was with a friend, and the mutual friend was with a girl friend. The conversation when he told me about this instance went along these lines:

Bf: I was out with my friend when I saw Girl A out.

Me: Oh really haven't seen her in ages! How was she?

Bf: Yeah my buddy went running over to talk to her (she is quite hot) and so I went with him and we chatted for a bit.

Me: Ah nice!

Bf: Yeah, her blonde friend couldn't stop staring at me. But they both seemed well which was nice.

So that is incident number one. Incident number two was when my boyfriend was on a lads holiday in Ibiza/Magaluf/ one of these sort of places. I should add that I have full trust in my boyfriend and know he wouldn't cheat (bad family experience which has affected him). So we are messaging and I'm asking how the holiday is and if he's having fun etc. He replies - "Yeah having a great time. So funny all the boys are trying to get with the girls here but the girls only want me! I'm like I've got a girlfriend but just funny. Have a good evening xxxx". So I know he said he told the girls I existed but if you are on a lads holiday and you are going to send a message back to your girlfriend do you really choose to tell her about all the girls coming on you?

Bit of background: me and my bf are 21 and have been in a two year relationship. Apart from this, he is a top bloke and has been there for me through thick and thin. I guess I just need to know whether I'm overreacting and these are in fact minor things (I have anxiety) or whether I should call him out on it next time?