[Anonymous]

(keep anon, the she's viewing this forum)

I'm currently at first year of university, and never been in a serious relationship. And there is this girl on my course that I have a crush on, and I shouldn't.

It all started very weird. At the beginning of the year, I noticed that she is very attractive and nice, but I didn't really have any serious feelings to her. We didn't even talk that much. And then, one day, I had a dream of us being together (I know, sounds silly). It was probably on of the best dreams I ever had. Then, I woke up, turned on my computer and what do I see? She wrote on my wall on Facebook - and if there's any place where I feel confident about speaking to people, it is the internet. That is what I call destiny.

It was all going well. I continued to dream about her. I was ready to make a move, for the first time in my life. And then, a week after that I learned that she has a boyfriend. That would be enough for me to forget about her, but then I discovered that she met this guy at our uni just a couple of months ago. That is exactly what made me feel depressed - I knew that it could have been me if only I decided to make a move at the right time. I should't really hope they will break up, but I did. I felt so angry and sad when I saw them together.

After a time, I felt pretty much indifferent towards her. But now, during revision time, we meet quite often in revision space and talk more than we used to talk. That's not much of an indication whether she likes me or not, she seems really friendly to anybody, but it's enough for me to continue having a crush on her. I started dreaming about her again, and literally, can't get her out of my head.

The main problem with the whole situation is that thinking about her constantly affects my revision. The other thing is, that in a couple of years I don't want to think that I wasted such an opportunity and to feel unhappy just because of my stupidity.

So what should I do to end it? Tell the truth? Make her hate me? I have absolutely no idea what to do

[chelseafreak]

once you like somebody i'm sorry but thats it you always will. just remeber that she has a boyfriend and see if they break up.

[sarzbabe]

tell her the truth but don't be pushy.

However, don't declare your enternal love for just yet; you might scare her off and it could just be a crush.. and they're called 'crush' for a reason.

Perhaps just flirt with her a bit rather than being friendly if you're too scared to tell her? and see if she responds.

Good luck

[Ciaran]

thought she had a bf though, why should he flirt with her?

[Megannnx]

The truth is.. you probably wont stop liking her for a long time. But theres nothing you can do about this, except wait for it to go away.. or meet someone new. Noone can change their own feelings, so just take each day as it goes, but don't do anything stupid